Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about helping you identify poisonous communication and toxic behavior.

You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.

That's why it's important that you learn to pinpoint manipulative and controlling behavior so that you keep your power and your sanity.

I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

Thank you. power and your sanity. I'm your host, Paul Koliati. Thanks for coming back to another episode of love and abuse. If you're new to this show,

I will do my best to guide you through the challenges that you might be dealing with and the reason that you're listening to this show.

I'm sure there's a reason that you tuned in if you are going through some sort of relationship

issue, whether that's a romantic relationship, a working relationship, a friend, family.

That's what usually happens, family and romance.

That's where our relationship issues are usually the most challenging.

But no matter if you're new or you've been listening a while, just know that all the

information on this show is meant for educational purposes only. Always seek a professional for your... no matter if you're new or you've been listening a while, just know that all the information

on this show is meant for educational purposes only. Always seek a professional for your mental

health and well-being and always pick your battles wisely. There is a trance that we can get into,

both of us, the victim, the abuser, anyone that's listening to this show right now can get into a sort

of trance.

And that trance is a set of beliefs, a set of values, an understanding of how the world works,

an understanding of how we're supposed to treat other people, an understanding of how we want

to be treated.

I would look at the trance that I'm talking about as sort of something that we don't want to change.

We don't want this to change because if it changes our world changes and if we're not

prepared for that change, we will be too scared to move forward.

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