Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about helping you identify poisonous communication and toxic behavior.

You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.

That's why it's important that you learn to pinpoint manipulative and controlling behavior so that you keep your power and your sanity.

I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

Thank you. power and your sanity. I'm your host, Paul Koliani. Hello, and thanks for joining me for another episode of love and abuse.

I want to remind you that all information on this podcast is meant for

informational and educational purposes only. Always seek a professional for your mental health

and well-being and always pick your battles wisely. I have a battle to talk about today. It's from someone

who sent me an email who said they were having a difficult time with an abusive family

member. That family member is their own child. In fact, this child is no longer a child. He's about,

I won't tell you his real age because of privacy reasons, but let's just say that he's not a teenager

anymore. And he is someone's son.

And this woman wrote to me and said, you know, my son, she said he is mentally ill and that

he has a disability and addictions and depression and anxiety and other not officially

diagnosed traits similar to borderline personality and some other things.

And she said that it's been difficult living with him.

She writes, he has a job and is connected with county vocational and educational services,

and she has done her best to be a great mom, but she says,

now I know I should have been a better

disciplinarian.

He's been involuntarily hospitalized for credible suicide threats in the past few years and

has been arrested for drugs and domestic violence against other family members.

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