These are my personal opinions always seek a professional when you're making choices about your mental health and well-being.

Welcome to the show. Glad you are here. I want to ask you a question. My question is, what is your level of toleration? What will you tolerate and how long will you tolerate it for

until you finally have had enough? I think it's healthy to have a limit to your toleration.

We're taught to be resilient. We're taught to be tolerant. And I've learned that the more tolerant you are of bad behavior, the more

bad behavior comes your way. The more tolerant you are of people dishonoring you or violating

your personal boundaries, then the more they do it. Or maybe not more, but it never ends.

If you're around somebody or with somebody that continually violate your boundaries,

they will continue doing it until there's accountability.

And I like to think of accountability as the only way someone will stop doing what you want

them to stop doing.

And so if somebody were mistreating me and I gave them a dirty look and they didn't

find that as any type of punishment or accountability for their behavior or if they believe

that the worst thing that could happen

if they mistreat me is I give them a dirty look, then they'll probably continue,

assuming they don't feel bad when I give them the dirty look.

Or worse, they expect the dirty look and just wait for it to happen so that they can feel satisfied.

So if I'm around someone or with someone who mistreats me and I don't want to be mistreated

and a dirty look or silence or saying something like, that wasn't very nice,

if those don't solve the problem, then I should never, ever repeat that response.

And this is something I teach over in love and abuse.

And I know this is common sense.

But it is important because some people get into relationships and some people have friends or family that will cross the line and not stop crossing it.

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