Welcome to love and abuse, the show about navigating the difficult relationship, from simple disagreements to emotionally abusive behaviors.

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Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being and always pick your battles wisely.

I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

Welcome to another episode of love and abuse.

I am glad that you are here listening.

I'm not glad that you have a reason to listen,

but I'm glad that you're here listening

and hopefully getting some value from what I talk about over here.

And I received a message from someone a while back actually that talked about how they became abusive reactively.

So a reactive abuse situation where you're in a relationship that someone is being hurtful to you

and no matter what you do, no matter how hard you try to tell them that they're hurting you

or just showing them your sadness or your hurt expression or crying or anything like that,

if you're in a relationship where

somebody is mistreating you and they're maybe they're intimidating you or

bullying you or insulting you or just making you feel bad overall and you can't

get them to stop you might become reactively abusive.

You might react in a way that is similar or worse than them.

And the reason you might do that is because you've tried everything else.

You've tried maybe telling them, you've tried all those

symptoms that I told you about crying and showing them that you're hurt and showing them that

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