Those who hurt you have poor coping skills so give them a break... right?
Love and Abuse
Paul Colaianni
4.7 • 879 Ratings
🗓️ 5 February 2025
⏱️ 44 minutes
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Summary
Hurt people hurt people, so we should have compassion when they hurt us, right? You know the answer and I know the answer. How does the person who is hurting you start to change and heal, though? Lots to unpack here.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to love and abuse, the show about navigating the difficult relationship, from simple disagreements to emotionally abusive behaviors. |
| 0:08.2 | You deserve respecting kindness. |
| 0:10.5 | All the information on this show is meant for educational purposes only. |
| 0:14.0 | Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being and always pick your battles wisely. |
| 0:19.2 | I'm your host, Paul Koliani. |
| 0:26.2 | Hey there, I have a challenge for you. |
| 0:30.6 | The challenge is, specifically for people who are with somebody who, you know, they're |
| 0:36.7 | emotionally abusive, they're controlling, or they have been, |
| 0:39.2 | and now they say they are healing, or they are changing, or they are working on it. |
| 0:46.4 | The challenge for you is to present them with a challenge. |
| 0:52.8 | It's challenging because if you're with somebody like that, |
| 0:57.4 | then you probably want to believe that they really are changing and you may |
| 1:03.5 | possibly not want to rock the boat. |
| 1:07.4 | You may possibly not want to test their old triggers. |
| 1:11.6 | Like every time I talk to my ex, they got mad and I don't want to rock that boat. |
| 1:16.6 | I don't want to bring that up again because everything's going so well right now. |
| 1:21.6 | And so you don't bring it up and you hope that the healing continues if it's real which is another |
| 1:29.7 | question is the healing real this is how you find out you find out by challenging |
| 1:35.6 | them with what is challenging to them what is challenging to them what is |
| 1:40.4 | challenging to them is something they have learned to cope with in usually an abusive |
| 1:47.0 | manner. |
| 1:48.0 | The emotionally abusive person has learned to cope with challenges in an abusive way. |
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