You're listening to On attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience

relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to

overcome insecurity and build healthy thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg, and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.

Today's episode is titled The Gift of Anxious Avoidant Relationships.

And I'm going to be talking all about what some of the maybe under-recognized or unexpected

upsides of an anxious- avoidant relationship can be.

So obviously most of the discussions that we have around these particular attachment dynamics

tend to be focusing on the ways in which it can be really challenging and I will be the first to acknowledge and admit that it absolutely can present a lot of challenges to navigate those sometimes conflicting attachment dynamics.

But I think there's also a reason that this pairing is so very common and there are certainly gifts present in that dynamic when the individuals involved are committed enough and have the capacity to do the work to meet in the middle.

And as a bit of a spoiler alert, I think that we could

summarize the gift of anxious-avoidant relationships as being that it invites us into

the middle rather than hanging out at the extremes of our attachment patterns which might be ostensibly

conflicting, it really does invite us off the ledge and to find some healthier way of being that is more akin to a secure center point.

So I'm going to be sharing that today and what those gifts can look like and wear the growth edge

for a more anxious leaning person versus a more

avoidant leaning person can lie in those dynamics.

And I suppose also some tips on how you can make sure that you're making the most of your

anxious-avoidant relationship so that it can be a healing relationship rather than one that

reinforces painful patterns and old ways of being that

maybe entrench you in your insecurity rather than inviting you into those new healing experiences.

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