You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here. Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.

Today's episode is titled, Am I Being Unreasonable? And it is inspired by a question that I get

asked all the time, which is just that.

How do I know if I'm being unreasonable in my relationship, in what I ask for, what I expect,

what I need from my partner?

This is a question that I get asked all the time.

And unfortunately, it's really challenging for me to answer that in the abstract.

And that's what I always say to people.

I'm not able to give you some sort of rule of thumb that is going to be generalized

enough to apply in every situation in a helpful way because it's just so dependent on context.

So I had the idea to ask people on Instagram, what are some examples of situations in your relationship where you

ask yourself that question? How do I know if I'm being unreasonable? And I got inundated with

responses. And so I recorded all of those responses and have selected some to chat through in

today's episode as specific examples to share my take on whether and when

and to what extent that thing might be reasonable or not to expect of a partner.

So I'm hoping that in taking it out of the abstract and in giving you almost like worked

examples, that that will not only give you a bit of a steer

on how you could approach those specific situations, but in filling in the blanks a little,

in coloring in the picture, that might help you to build up your own muscle of discernment

so that you feel better place to make that assessment for yourself going forward

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