The Genius Of Empathy With Dr. Judith Orloff - Ep 303
Dear Shandy
Sharleen Joynt & Andy Levine
4.9 • 4K Ratings
🗓️ 18 April 2024
⏱️ 61 minutes
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Summary
At the heart of so many relationship questions we've received—and relationships in general—is a common thread: EMPATHY. This "healing force", as our esteemed guest calls it, has the power to not only heal our relationships with others, but with ourselves. So why do so few of us understand its powers?
Today we're honored to be joined by THE foremost expert on empathy, Dr. Judith Orloff, dubbed “the godmother of the empath movement.” Dr. Orloff is a board-certified psychiatrist and the New York Times best-selling author of several books, including 2017's landmark "The Empath’s Survival Guide" and her latest, "The Genius of Empathy: Practical Skills to Heal Your Sensitive Self, Your Relationships, and the World". Today she helps dispel the misconceptions around empathy, demonstrates how to draw healthy boundaries, and explains the transformative, healing power of SELF-empathy. She explains why it's OK that your partner isn't the same empathy "type" as you, whether or not you can have too much empathy, and how to approach someone whose beliefs you fundamentally disagree with. Today's conversation is the warm hug you needed and will hopefully inspire healing in your more complicated relationships, especially the one you have with yourself.
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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Welcome To The Legendary Dr. Judith Orloff!
3:41 - What Is Empathy & Empathy Vs Compassion
5:10 - What Are Her Thoughts On The Term “Empath” Becoming Mainstream?
6:52 - The Biggest Misconceptions About Empathy
10:32 - Drawing Boundaries
16:19 - Is Empathy Something We’re Born With? Nature Vs Nurture
17:31 - Can One Really Become *More* Empathic?
20:38 - The Empathy Types
23:13 - Mismatched Empathy In Relationships
29:19 - Tips For Self Empathy
31:24 - How Can I Make Empathy Work In A Way That Isn’t Ultimately To My Disadvantage?
34:04 - Is Self Awareness A Prerequisite to Self Empathy?
34:54 - Tips For Avoiding Empathy-Deficient Types
37:10 - When It Feels Like Someone Doesn’t Deserve Empathy
39:19 - Empathy Vs Enablement
43:29 - Is There Such A Thing As Too Much Empathy?
45:12 - Sharleen’s Takeaways
46:11 - Tips For Empathizing With Someone Whose Beliefs You Fundamentally Disagree With
49:06 - Shandy Debrief
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| 0:00.0 | I have empathy. Look at my empathy. Look what I'm doing. You see this? Yeah, you don't have empathy than you. |
| 0:08.0 | Dear Shandy. |
| 0:12.2 | Welcome back to Dear Shandy listeners. Hello, Andy. How are you today? |
| 0:16.4 | You're doing good. Doing good. Yeah. We have a great guest today. We do have a great guest, a very exciting |
| 0:21.0 | guest, a guest who when, just before we started rolling, we asked her where she was and she said Venice Beach and you touched your stomach and she said, oh, why did you touch your stomach? And you're like, I didn't know I touched my stomach. And then we were like, oh my God, maybe there was meaning in that because our guest today is highly intuitive. |
| 0:37.2 | She is, I think, |
| 0:38.8 | the creme de la crem of empaths in the world. She is a board certified psychiatrist, an intuitive |
| 0:45.6 | healer, and the New York Times bestselling author of several books, including 2010's Emotional Freedom, |
| 0:52.8 | Liberate Yourself from Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life, 2017s, including 2010's emotional freedom, liberate yourself from negative emotions and transform your life. |
| 0:56.6 | 2017's The Empaths Survival Guide, Life Strategies for Sensitive People, and the brand new, hot off the press, is the genius of empathy, practical skills to heal your sensitive self, your relationships, |
| 1:13.2 | and the world. And by the way, no big deal. The foreword is by the Dalai Lama. |
| 1:18.7 | Oh, I know. Just throwing that one in there. We are so thrilled today to be joined by Dr. Judith |
| 1:24.3 | Orloff. Thank you so much. Welcome. Thank you. It's great to be here. |
| 1:27.9 | To be honest, empathy is a topic that I have been dancing around broaching. |
| 1:32.8 | We've been doing this podcast for three and a half years now. |
| 1:35.8 | And I think empathy is woven into just about every topic we end up covering, honestly. |
| 1:42.1 | But it is a, it's like a, it's a slippery little feeling or emotion. |
| 1:47.0 | I mean, I don't even know what to describe it as. |
| 1:49.0 | What would you describe it? |
| 1:50.0 | It's a healing force that you can tap into by opening up your heart. |
| 1:55.0 | You open up your empathy. |
| 1:57.0 | So you heal yourself, you can heal your relationships and send that empathy out to the world. |
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