Q&A! Too Much Complaining, The Seed Of Resentment & Is "Boring" Healthy? - Ep 304
Dear Shandy
Sharleen Joynt & Andy Levine
4.9 • 4K Ratings
🗓️ 25 April 2024
⏱️ 64 minutes
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Summary
It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you have a tumultuous relationship history, is "boring" maybe a good thing? If you feel yourself becoming resentful in your relationship because your sacrifices outnumber your partner's, what to do? And not one, not two, but THREE heavy-hitting platonic friendship questions! What does Shandy consider a "friendship-reconsidering" level crime? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!
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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Q1: Does Healthy = Boring?
10:35 - Q2: My Friend Accused Me Of “Bitching & Complaining” And Our Friendship Is Suddenly Over—What Happened?!
23:50 - Q3: My Friend Moved Out Of Town And Now Zoom-Joins Our In-Person Hangs—Am I The Asshole For Disliking This?
33:46 - Q4: Should I Let My Friend’s Outrageous Wedding Request Make Me See Her Differently?
46:03 - Q5: I’ve Sacrificed More For This Relationship Than My Boyfriend Has And Am Feeling Resentful—Help!
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | This is disgraceful. |
| 0:01.3 | Yeah. I'm disgusted. I don't like this person to the point where I want to meet them and tell them myself. Dear Shandy. Welcome back to Dear Shandy listeners. Hello, Andy. Hello. How are you today? I'm doing all right. Yeah, it's a rainy day. |
| 0:21.6 | It's a rainy Wednesday. |
| 0:22.6 | It's a stormy day. |
| 0:23.6 | There's a difference between rainy and stormy. Oh, really? Yeah, stormy is windy and rainy. And so we decided it was a good day to record a Q&A. Yeah. We have nowhere else to be. No, let's do it. So we will answer our listeners' cues. |
| 0:36.4 | Shall we get going? |
| 0:37.2 | Yes. |
| 0:37.7 | All right. |
| 0:38.1 | This first question is from |
| 0:39.4 | One Bored Babe. Dear Shandy, thank you for the time and effort you put into your work as it truly |
| 0:45.1 | accumulates into an obvious labor of love. Thank you for letting us witness the beautiful love you've |
| 0:49.7 | built and the friendship that holds you together. How nice. Thank you. One bored, babe. Here is my dilemma. |
| 0:56.2 | I, a 32-year-old female recently entered my first committed relationship in three years. |
| 1:01.8 | I have enjoyed dating around flirting and getting to know different people, |
| 1:05.0 | but my goal has always been to find my person as I am a true, hopeless romantic. |
| 1:09.6 | However, I have a rather tumultuous relationship history |
| 1:12.4 | that I've worked through in therapy and don't want to repeat. Because of this, I am hyper aware of how |
| 1:17.7 | my mind and body respond when I'm around the men I date. I haven't found anyone that I felt ready to |
| 1:23.2 | commit to until now. My boyfriend is the most respectful, thoughtful, accepting, and sweet |
| 1:28.3 | man I have ever dated. He is soft-spoken, introverted, and endearingly anxious. He plans dates |
| 1:34.7 | based on the things I like. He is an excellent communicator, emotionally available, and his |
| 1:39.5 | example of vulnerability makes me feel safe in a way that I've never experienced before. |
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