The feelings of guilt and shame after leaving the abusive person
Love and Abuse
Paul Colaianni
4.7 • 879 Ratings
🗓️ 6 November 2025
⏱️ 33 minutes
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Summary
If you've ever questioned how to forgive yourself for choosing your own well-being over an abusive partner, you're not alone. If you're feeling guilt or shame for leaving an abusive person, this is an important episode to listen to.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about navigating the difficult relationship, |
| 0:05.0 | from simple disagreements to emotionally abusive behaviors. |
| 0:08.1 | You deserve respecting kindness. |
| 0:10.5 | All the information on this show is meant for educational purposes only. |
| 0:13.9 | Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being, and always pick your battles wisely. |
| 0:19.1 | I'm your host, Paul Koliani. |
| 0:26.9 | Thanks for tuning in. |
| 0:33.2 | I want to talk about the guilt you might feel leaving an emotionally abusive relationship when you've actually done nothing wrong. |
| 0:37.6 | You've tried to fix it. You've tried to fix it. |
| 0:39.8 | You've tried to work on yourself thinking that you were the problem. |
| 0:44.1 | You've tried to accommodate. |
| 0:45.8 | You've tried to people please or whatever. |
| 0:48.6 | Just to try to make things right. |
| 0:51.0 | Just trying to heal the relationship. |
| 0:53.2 | And nothing ever works. |
| 0:55.0 | So there's a point where you have to probably leave the relationship because you're trying |
| 1:01.0 | everything and they're not changing. |
| 1:03.0 | That's how it works sometimes, right? |
| 1:05.7 | You are doing everything you can to make things work. |
| 1:10.1 | You are accommodating. You are changing, or often this is what |
| 1:14.1 | happens, the victim of abusive behavior will change and try to make things right, try to |
| 1:20.5 | go in the direction that they believe the other person wants them to go. |
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