Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about navigating the difficult relationship,

from simple disagreements to emotionally abusive behaviors.

You deserve respecting kindness.

All the information on this show is meant for educational purposes only.

Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being, and always pick your battles wisely.

I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

All right, I'm going to get right into today's topic.

And before I do, I want to mention that I talk about or I use the labels, abuse and abuser and victim.

And I don't do that to label. I don't do that to define anyone. I just use them because it's a lot faster. It's a lot faster and a lot easier to say those

words because I could say the recipient of hurtful behavior and the person who hurts and it gets a little

wordy. So when you hear me call someone an abuser, when you hear me call someone a victim,

it's just because it's faster to say it. It doesn't mean that everyone that does hurtful behavior

is an abuser and it doesn't mean everyone who is a victim is helpless or disempowered or anything like that.

So I just want to get that out of the way.

I don't normally say that on this show, but I do use those terms a lot.

And if you've purchased the mean workbook, you already know this because I say that right at the beginning.

So you understand.

So I just wanted to get that out of the way because mostly, I'll just say it now, victims of

emotionally abusive behavior are the ones who listen to this show.

But there are many, many abusers who, you know, quote abusers, people who do the hurtful

behavior or people who think they're

doing abusive or hurtful behavior that also tune into this show because they want to learn about

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