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Welcome to the Double X Gab Fest for Thursday, December 28th, the Everyone's A Little Bit Sexist Edition.

I'm Hannah Rosen, a host of NPR's Invisibilia.

In the New York studios today are June Thomas, editor of Outwards, Slate's LGBTQ blog. Hi, June. Hey, Hannah. And Noreen Malone of New York Magazine. Hi, Noreen. Hi, Anna. So today is our special call-in show. We put out a number. A lot of you called in and left fabulous, fabulous messages. Don't you guys think they were just fabulous?

Yeah, all of them. Yeah, all of them, really. You had a hard time picking. Yes. We really, really, really did. So we're going to talk to a few that we picked. We're going to play them on the air and answer them. And then in our Slate Plus segment today, we'll discuss yet more of these fabulous calls. If you're not yet a Slate Plus member, you should be.

You can start your free two-week not yet a Slate Plus member,

you should be. You can start your free two-week trial by visiting slate.com slash XX Plus.

Hear the show, add-free, and also sponsor all the great work that Slate does. Okay, ready to roll?

Let's play our first one. Hi, this is Janelle calling from Cambridge, Massachusetts, and I have a question about work etiquette.

I was a new coworker, and he does not put the toilet seat down after using the restroom.

We have shared both gender restrooms.

And I want to say something about it, but asking a male co-worker to do something to accommodate my preferences as a female coworker seems to be unnecessarily gendered and therefore seems like it could be sexist.

Thank you.

You guys, this is the greatest question ever asked. I know. It's like a spin on an old dilemma. It really is. I think I want to

start because I did some reporting. This is the only reporting I've done all year. So I've got to

come back with what I've learned. So I asked some men around the office,

the slate office, what their view of this was. And they told me that even in a men's room

that only men use, which apparently is as disgusting as you might think some of the time,

the ideal situation is for the toilet seat to be put down when people are finished doing their business.

So he wouldn't be doing it just for her taste and her preference.

He would be doing it for the general preference of the entire world.

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