Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago

and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.

I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-health doesn't have to be so complicated. A listener asks how do I know if I'm feeling my needs or if I'm being needy?

This is a great question and it's something that I get all the time.

Well, I think if you're asking this question,

then chances are you fall into the category of many who probably don't know what your needs are and you probably

have difficulty asking or you've never really asked for your needs, right?

Maybe you grew up fulfilling other people's needs, that was the tracks that were laid, and so asking for needs

is just, it's not something you're used to, you don't know how to do it you haven't had any practice

and also you're hyper fearful of appearing needy so I'm not seeing everyone's like this, but I find that if you're asking this question, if you're wondering

if these are really my needs or am I being needy,

chances are you fall into this bucket.

Now, let's start with what your needs are.

I mean, of course, it's different for everyone.

I kind of see needs like the levers on an equalizer.

You know you got your your base and your trouble and tone and and everyone's pitch is and sounds going to be different to their preference right and also it

changes depending on how old you are and what you're going through and who you are right

like my needs today are very different and who you are, right?

Like, my needs today are very different than, say,

my needs in my 20s.

So a good way to break down needs is you have your physical need that is your need to move

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