Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago

and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.

I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-health doesn't have to be so complicated.

Okay, today I'm gonna to try to answer, well I shouldn't say try, I'm going to answer this, but it's just my opinion.

John, that's me, what does a healthy relationship look like?

This is the most common question that I get and I think I've like chipped at it. I think I've answered it

in different ways depending on where I'm at you know and I want to point this out that

your healthy definition of love can change and it should because we change we evolve right I don't

think that that definition is dried cement I think it is a living breathing thing that definition because as we change and

grow and evolve and what matters to us changes right what was important to us changes, right? What was important to you before may not be today

and what will be important to you in the future may be different and so your definition of love, your definition of healthy, isn't set in stone.

So here's what I believe.

Okay, I want to start with the visual.

I'm a visual person and I want to start with this.

I said once on social media that I found this in a yogurt ad this visual and

someone corrected me and said no John that was a Viagra ad.

Okay, I don't know where I found it, but I remember seeing two people in their own separate tubs.

There were bath tubs in the Grand Canyon, overlooking the Grand Canyon, and these people, this couple

with the man and woman were older. They were like probably, you know, in their 70s right so like they've done life

together or or maybe they just met I don't know but they're in their separate tubs

they're facing the same direction, looking out into the world

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