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Well, as we talked about last episode, husbands, sometimes we stand back because there is a package of emotions and we don't want to rile it up, or as was the case for Greg, we feel like we're the only ones between that emotional wife and a cliff.

Well, we're back today to talk about wives and husbands and emotional intimacy in marriage.

I'm John Fuller, joined by Aaron and Greg Smalley. They lead the marriage team here at the ministry.

And Aaron, when a husband dismisses feelings, how does that make you feel? Because I remember a time when Dina was talking about something

to me and I just said, well, why do I care? And that, of course, was the wrong thing.

She said, well, those people, why do I care? Well, okay, so it was in the context of there was a lot of

drama for some friends of hers. And so she was bringing that forward. And we had a lot going on in our own lives. And they sort of felt like, could we just keep it to us? And why do we need more drama? And so I said, why do I care? And well, these people are important to me. And I realized, okay, well well they're important to me too now yeah

we appreciate you sharing these stories because we don't get it right a lot of the time well we

men we step in it so do we shut you down or does it just make you feel like I want you to hear me

husband I was going to say I've never experienced feeling dismissed. Or maybe I'm totally lying.

Hypothetically, maybe.

Especially early on how I felt was invalidated, that whatever I was feeling or fearing or thinking, if he didn't agree with me, I felt dismissed and invalidated like it was wrong the way I was feeling.

Like in my mind, my logical brain would go, wait, you're saying this and this happened.

It made you feel ABC.

That doesn't connect.

I don't get it.

It's the wrong way to feel.

As if emotions were ever meant to be logical. That was the funny part.

Or I would tell you to, I think I kind of quickly learned, okay, how she feels is how she feels.

I think then I started doing the, hey, calm down, relax.

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