Hi everybody. Welcome to the Women's Dating and Confidence Podcast. My name is Amber, and today I want to talk to you

about the courage to reject somebody. Before we get into that, I want to let you know about my free guide.

It's called copy and paste texts for when he's pulling away or acting flaky. It's an eight-page

guide with the most common situations where men pull away or act flaky, and the link for that

is going to be in the show notes. So let's talk about the courage to reject somebody.

This is not something that we often think about because we're usually too busy worrying about not

getting rejected ourselves. But every once in a while or maybe even frequently, you go on dates

with people where you notice early on that it's not a good

fit and you don't want to see them again, but they maybe still want to see you. And that can actually

cause a lot of anxiety because you're really afraid of hurting their feelings. And for good reason, because you're an empathetic being.

And so you know what it feels like to be rejected yourself and you don't want to cause that for

somebody else. And this is actually a problem because, one, when we're really uncomfortable

with rejecting people, we end up creating stories about

those people that are actually not true for us. So in an effort to avoid the discomfort

of rejecting them, we'll tell ourselves, but they're great on paper or like maybe I can

make it work or like you just tell yourself something to avoid having to

reject them and you end up dating the wrong people for way too long, which prevents you

from dating the right people. Secondly, if you feel really bad about rejecting people, then you

end up giving yourself a guilt trip and treating

yourself really harshly and basically not being kind to yourself because you had to do something

that was actually in integrity for you. And lastly, when we try to avoid hurting people's feelings

or rejecting others when it is the right authentic thing to do,

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