The breadcrumbing of relationships' past
Love and Abuse
Paul Colaianni
4.7 • 879 Ratings
🗓️ 19 August 2025
⏱️ 18 minutes
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Summary
Breadcrumbing can be a manipulative way to keep someone in your mind so that you can't fully move forward, keeping you as a pawn in another person's game. In this episode, a person wrote to me talking about their ex, a 13-year breadcrumber!
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about navigating the difficult relationship, |
| 0:05.0 | from simple disagreements to emotionally abusive behaviors. |
| 0:08.1 | You deserve respecting kindness. |
| 0:10.5 | All the information on this show is meant for educational purposes only. |
| 0:13.9 | Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being, and always pick your battles wisely. |
| 0:19.1 | I'm your host, Paul Koliani. |
| 0:27.6 | Hello, welcome to the show. |
| 0:29.8 | I'm going to read you a message I received. |
| 0:33.5 | The person wrote, my ex-boyfriend and I were together for 10 years. |
| 0:40.3 | We started doing personal training with a studio, and he met a girl, and he said nothing ever happened with her, but eventually their relationship ended, and he moved out and moved |
| 0:46.8 | in with her, or moved on with her. |
| 0:49.9 | And this person who wrote said she was devastated and felt completely discarded. |
| 0:55.2 | Long story short, he stayed with her and married her and they had a child. |
| 0:59.1 | I moved on with my life and I didn't meet anyone new, but you never know. |
| 1:04.4 | But my question is, why after all these years, over a decade, would my ex-boyfriend, |
| 1:14.0 | or why does he, still randomly message me like the time I was on a walk with my family and he sent me a message and said, hey, did I just |
| 1:19.6 | see you and your dad and your sister? Anyway, I did not reply to that message and over the years |
| 1:24.7 | I received completely random message out of the blue |
| 1:27.9 | as he did certain things in his life and just kept me updated. Can you please try to help me gain |
| 1:35.4 | some understanding on this behavior? And yes, it was a very unhealthy dynamic of a relationship. |
| 1:40.5 | Thank you, Paul. Thanks for sharing that. And I am glad that you are not in that |
| 1:46.2 | relationship anymore. I normally talk about emotionally abusive behaviors and breadcrumming isn't |
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