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In order to explain to you what I mean by ruinous empathy, I want to share a story about what was probably the most painful moment of my career. I had just hired this guy, we'll call

him Bob, and I liked Bob a lot. He was smart, he was charming, he was funny.

He would do stuff like we were at a manager offsite, and we were playing one of those

endless get-to-know-you games, and everybody was really stressed out.

We were at a busy moment in the company's history, and Bob could tell that everybody was stressed out. He was the

guy who had the courage to raise his hand and say, you know, I can tell everybody's really anxious.

Maybe it would be better if we did something that was really fast, but would help us get to

know each other a little better, and then we just would either go home

or get back to work.

And everybody was down with that.

Whatever his idea was, if it was fast, we wanted to do it.

Bob says, why don't we just go around the table and confess what candy our parents used

when potty training us? Really weird, but really fast.

We all did it.

Weirder yet, we all remembered Hershey Kisses right here.

And then for the next 10 months, every time there was a stressful moment, a tense moment,

and a meeting, Bob would whip out just the right piece of candy for the right person

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