The Biggest Fears in Dating (and How to Overcome Them) | Rewind

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Matthew Hussey

Relationships, 971900, Self-improvement, Education, Society & Culture

4.8 • 2.9K Ratings

🗓️ 7 November 2025

⏱️ 18 minutes

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Summary

Why do we get so in our heads when we start dating someone new? In this episode, we dive deep into the most common fears people face in early dating — from getting too invested too soon, to navigating intimacy and exclusivity when someone’s seeing multiple people.

With over 1,300 comments from listeners sharing their biggest dating anxieties, we unpack the most relatable ones and offer real, practical ways to reframe them. You’ll hear us talk about:

What it really means when someone wants intimacy but avoids emotional connection
How to slow down without feeling like you’re “falling behind”
Why obsession isn’t chemistry — and how to trust yourself more in the process
The mindset shift that turns “what if I get hurt?” into “what if I stay grounded?”

If you’ve ever found yourself overthinking a text, reading too much into mixed signals, or getting attached too fast — this one’s for you.

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0:00.0	We are talking today about people's fears when dating.
0:11.8	Yeah, we actually put something out on social media, which was, it read,
0:16.8	what is your biggest fear in early dating?
0:19.0	And we had 1,350 comments and people just
0:25.5	basically shared with us their biggest fear so we pulled out some of the most kind of
0:30.5	recurring themes and the most relatable fears in early dating and I intentionally didn't look at
0:35.6	these because I was like I'm I'm going to wait and do
0:38.0	this live on the show. What percentage of these fears were spiders? I would have put that one.
0:44.0	I would have put that too. In early dating. Well, imagine you're dating someone spider in the
0:49.6	kitchen and they need you to take it outside. Right. They're equally if you imagine if you're
0:53.7	dating someone who's equally afraid of spiders. Oh, it's worse. It's worse. She's not afraid of spiders, but you're terrified. That's us, isn't it? It's probably me and Audrey's relationship, actually. Did anyone put the concept of infinity? Also, also scary if you think about it. I think people are more concerned with things ending in
1:13.1	dating steve than they are worried about infinity what i was thinking that we could do
1:17.9	is if i read out to you guys some of those fears and you guys can maybe come up with ways of
1:25.6	reframing those fears for people because i think that will be be really, really useful for our listeners, you know, methods and tools to actually overcome those kinds of fits.
1:34.1	Because they are really common in early dating.
1:36.4	And the same stuff did come up over and over again.
1:39.0	So you guys ready?
1:40.7	Let's do it.
1:41.4	Number one, somebody wrote that they are are the stage of dating multiple women so
1:47.0	this is interesting right because people have different standards when it comes to you know exclusivity
1:54.4	in the beginning and it can be really difficult especially when um you know people want to rush into things physically and intimately.
2:03.3	We actually had an email the other day from one of our podcast listeners who said that she's
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