I no longer want to hear dating advice from conventionally attractive people.

That was the title of an article in vogue that I read recently that caught my attention and I thought,

I have to make a video about this. It's too important. It's too raw. It's too honest. And it is so many people's lived

experience out there. If you are looking for love and you go online looking for advice about how to

find love, you are going to be met by an avalanche of psychologists, therapists, therapists,

coaches and super hot 20-something TikTokers all giving you their two

sense on how you should be going about finding love and when that person who's

giving you the advice doesn't look like you has advantages you do not have it

can feel unhelpful patron patronising, and borderline offensive.

As someone who has been coaching people for nearly two decades of my life, I've worked with

millions of people, I've written two New York Times bestselling books on the subject of finding,

attracting and keeping love. I want to bring light to this conversation because I think it's

extraordinarily important. Now this Vogue article actually originated as a video on the

Instagram account of Stephanie Yeboa. Stephanie, I hope I'm saying your last name correctly.

We are going to play that video first before we dive into the article.

I don't like hearing dating advice from conventionally attractive people.

And I've always thought this way since I was a teenager.

It's like asking a rich person how to survive being poor.

They've never had to live at that level so they wouldn't understand.

I think that in itself is a very important point.

The idea that if someone is standing at the top of a mountain, yelling advice

for people trying to get to the top of the mountain.

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