Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast, a place for honest conversations and practical advice on how to build an awesome marriage.

I am your podcast producer and co-host, Lindsay Few.

On the show will be our host, Dr. Kim Kimberly.

Dr. Kim is a marriage counselor and has been married for over 50 years.

His passion is to help you strengthen your most intimate relationship.

Well, there is one step to a fairproofing a marriage that stands out above the rest,

and that is to pre-decide.

Make the commitment to stick to those vows you made at the altar and do whatever it takes

to maintain them.

But that sounds pretty simple, right?

So today we're going to get down into the details about how to actually make this simple

thing work.

So Dr. Kim, with all of the effective things to prevent an affair, they all start with

pre-deciding. Will you explain the term to pre-decide? Yeah, I think it, to me, it's, in your

marriage is realizing that the enemy really does want to destroy your marriage. And so, so many

things that happen, we just have to be aware of that.

And so, and I think to realize that I'm not as strong as I really think I am sometimes. And, you know, I need to be, or predeciding helps me to stay within the boundaries, the parameters that I want to stay with my marriage.

So if I pre-decide to always be faithful in my marriage,

it's like, okay, I pre-decide,

it's not how close can I get to the fire without falling in.

It's how far can I stay away from the fire?

And so what I need to do, I don't need to think, well, it's okay to have

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