Hi, this is Janet Lansbury. Welcome to Unruffled. Today I'm going to be talking about

toilet training or toilet learning and my thoughts about it. Most of you, if you've listened here,

have probably heard me say that I'm a believer in allowing kids to lead the way when it comes to what I call toilet learning.

The reason I believe in that is not because that's the only way that works.

That's absolutely not true.

There are a lot of children that do fine with the parent toilet training in three days or

whatever the books say.

The reason that I recommend child-led potty learning is that this is something that kids can

autonomously achieve with our support.

There are so many things in life that kids need us for.

In my view, anything that they could possibly do themselves is a precious opportunity that I believe in trying to give to children when possible.

But that doesn't mean that that's always the way that everybody wants to do it or everybody agrees with and definitely not the only way it works, like I said. In this episode, I'm going to share how my advice around

toilet learning was not helpful to a particular family. I did a podcast episode about a year ago

called When Kids Don't Se Motivated, and then in parentheses, to potty, crawl, or create.

And that was one of my weird podcasts where I, it's about all sorts of different things.

There were three different notes.

But in all of these cases, the parents were sure that their children

could do these things, that they had the ability, but it seemed like their child was not

motivated. So that's why I talked about all of them under the heading of how to encourage

this motivation, or really, the way I see it, helping kids

get unstuck. I offered some remedies for all of these situations because these remedies are all

about helping children get unstuck and connect with their natural motivation. Because another

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