The 5 Stages of Marriage Destruction | “The Stages of Marriage”
Established Family Podcast
Derek Palizay
5.0 • 585 Ratings
🗓️ 17 January 2026
⏱️ 69 minutes
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Summary
This episode is about what happens long before a marriage ever reaches the point of divorce or full destruction.In this teaching, we break down the biblical stages of marriage destruction—the progressive spiritual drift that takes a covenant from God’s design into chaos, confusion, and eventually death.Scripture tells us that death is not sudden—it is what happens when chaos is complete.In this episode, we walk through:— Spiritual Blindness: when perception is dulled and truth is no longer discerned— Spiritual Hiding: when awareness surfaces but repentance is avoided— Spiritual Agreement: when dysfunction becomes normalized and empowered— Spiritual Rebellion: when correction becomes offensive and truth is resisted— Spiritual Destruction: when chaos is complete and the soul is exhaustedThis is not a psychological framework.This is not modern counseling language.This is a biblical map—rooted in Scripture—that exposes how marriages drift away from God’s design without realizing it.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome back to the Established Family Podcast. Today's episode is brought to you by the Marriage Academy. |
| 0:05.2 | This is our premier 12-week marriage program that will guide you through the stages of marriage. |
| 0:10.9 | As you can see on your screen, there are five that lead towards marital destruction and five that |
| 0:15.9 | lead toward marital growth. Recognizing your condition is stage one of marital growth. Then we will go on in the marriage |
| 0:22.6 | academy to repenting and renouncing our agreements, returning to our marriage and relearning |
| 0:28.0 | what God originally designed for us, then rebuilding our marriage in God's design, reestablishing |
| 0:33.0 | communication, reestablishing covenant relationships, as well as learning about our commission, our mandate, |
| 0:39.3 | and our purpose as a couple, and then we will move on to walking in God's design for our marriage. |
| 0:45.3 | This curriculum has been battle tested in over 1,500 marriages already in growing. |
| 0:50.4 | So if you want to join the Marriage Academy, go to establish university.com and you can |
| 0:54.8 | join as a spouse, an individual, or you can join as a host on behalf of your church or your small |
| 1:01.1 | group. Simply go to establishuniversity.com and enroll in the marriage academy today. Let's get into |
| 1:06.5 | today's episode. What's going on to Savage family? Derek Pousa here back with another episode of |
| 1:10.9 | the Established Family podcast. I'm excited to be with you today as we are talking about the |
| 1:16.2 | stages of marriage, which is going to be a core foundation to all of our teaching moving forward. |
| 1:23.3 | And you already know this if you're in the Marriage Academy because the entire marriage marriage academy is structured around guiding spouses through the stages of marriage, |
| 1:32.6 | specifically the stages of growth. |
| 1:34.5 | There are 10 stages of marriage and five of them lead to destruction and five of them lead to |
| 1:41.0 | growth. |
| 1:41.4 | What's interesting about our core theological framework on this |
| 1:45.1 | is basically you can have an overall stage of marriage, and then there can be specific categories |
| 1:51.8 | in the marriage that are at different stages, depending on the history of both spouses and |
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