it's almost i call this emotional i keto where ikeido instead of striking the other person you're

taking their energy and kind of using it to flip them over right also made me jiu jitsu and it's kind of like

that because the obvious is oh you punch me i'm going to punch you back right but instead kind of

taking their energy as data and information and going under.

That is what defuses fights very fast.

I'm John Kim, a licensed therapist who used to be a miserable fuck before going on a hero's journey

and turning expired relationships into revelations.

I use my story to help others come with you instead of at you,

unrehearsed on purpose, because self-help doesn't have to be polished or complicated.

Just honest.

This is a compilation of some of the work from Stan Takkin, some of the work that our couple therapists has kind of cobbled her own stuff, and then we kind of took it and put our

own spin on it, kind of removed some that we didn't really feel were very aligned.

Like it's a bit of amalgamation.

Okay.

So the first one, we protect the safety and security

of our relationship at all times. So if we're in a secure dynamic, we know that the safety

and security of the relationship is primary, right? And we do whatever we can to protect that.

Number two, we are fully transparent with each other and tell each other everything.

So we wanted to say something about this because there is...

Because it activated the shit out of me when I first heard us.

So for the Aches, of course, you would champion this, right?

Of course, we tell each other everything at all times.

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