Hi everyone, welcome to thanks for being here, a short weekly pad to remind us of the many essential

and beautiful ways we affect one another. Every Sunday I'll read a submission from a listener of Kelly Corrigan Wonders, could be wedding vows or about

mitzvah toast, a eulogy or retirement speech.

We believe this is probably the loveliest way to tap into our better selves and remember our highest values.

We encourage you to share this podcast each week with one person you love, maybe someone

you miss and need to bring closer,

someone you want to feel your appreciation or admiration or both.

This is thanks for being here comes from me. Yesterday was the day my dad died nine years ago now. And recently

my friend Tracy Tuttle who I talk a lot about she was my college roommate and the

first time I'm traveling with for a year and just someone very dear to me lost her

mom in a bit of a surprising way and when I got to her after that, we had a long hug and then she pulled back and held my shoulders and her whole face was wet with tears and she said,

I don't think I did enough for you

when your father died I didn't know this is what it felt like and of course she

did do enough but also I related and so I've written a note to a few people whose fathers died before mine to apologize.

You are welcome to use this as a proxy for your own apology to whoever you didn't feel

you showed up for in quite the right way. It's really hard to know before it happens how exquisite the pain really is.

Dear Steve and Missy, and Jeff.

I'm so deeply sorry I wasn't more useful to you

when your father died.

I did a shit job of being your friend.

I wish I had written down my favorite stories about your dad and sent them to you, so you would have them on the harder days.

I should have dug up whatever photos I could get my hands on and sent them to you, so you would have them on the harder days.

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