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There are four attachment styles.

The first one is the securely attached styles.

Children in secure homes, they grew up with parents who are really attuned to them.

And what that actually conditions a child to believe about themselves is like, oh, I'm worthy of love just as I am.

I don't have to be performing or achieving for it.

I can be distressed and still have love. And that is what allows them to then have these really healthy relationships long term.

The anxious attachment style. They end up in situations where they have a lot of either real or

perceived abandonment. They cope with this by trying to people pleased, constantly trying to cling to

people around them. The dismissive avoidance. They go through childhood emotional neglect as their like dominant theme of their childhood. Don't be a cry baby. Get over it. Or like, oh my gosh, don't cry in front of people. Go back into the other room and come back when you're when you've got it together. They basically reject their own emotions. They're like trying to prove to themselves they don't need people. The fearful avoidant, their overarching theme in childhood is chaos.

You never know what you're getting in your home. The fearful avoidance attachment strategy is

basically to become hypervigilant. They really notice any little change in micro expressions,

hyper attuned to all of these little signals. Yeah. Because you can't really trust your

environment. They become the very hot and cold partners. For anybody who hears themselves in this, just rest assured, like, it's a solvable problem.

People report doubling their relationship satisfaction after healing their attachment style.

It's good to know, and then it's good to know that, like, hey, you can do something about it too.

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And Taylor.

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You're the second favorite host.

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