This is feminist wellness, and I'm your host, nurse practitioner, somatics, and nervous system nerd, and life coach, Bea Victoria Albina.

I'll show you how to get unst stuck, drop the anxiety, perfectionism,

and codependency so you can live from your beautiful heart. Welcome, my love. Let's get started.

Hello, hello, my love. I hope this finds you doing so well. Welcome to the Tenderoni hotline. And if you think you hear purring, it's because Wade Elizabeth is in my lap and I'm not about to put him down. So that explains the purring in the background. I actually really hope you can hear it because it's really sweet and tender.

And just a quick note, it is, it's so humbling. Like a cat's love is such a gift and it is,

I mean, any animal's love, any love is such a gift, but like, they're so particular.

And they're finicky and they're thoughtful and they demand constant consent.

And I love that about them.

And so we've had, we've had Wade Elizabeth.

He's been in our life.

We've had the incredible gift of being his guardians, his mamas, for about a year now.

And this sweet garbage cat, and if you're new to my world, I'm not calling him garbage.

He was found literally in a garbage can. He is just the greatest gift.

Loving him is such a gift. So if you hear purring, that's why I'm not putting him down because him getting enlapses pretty new behavior

and it's outstanding.

Oh, he's so warm and soft like a bunny.

Oh, all right, babies, let's do this.

Let's do some Tenderoni hotline.

Are you ready? Are you ready? All right. So this question reads as such. I find myself in fight mode very often and I sense it's connected to emotional outsourcing. I've been a teacher and just quit to start a completely different job in the new year. Teaching triggered my fight response because it made me feel unsafe, unseen, and unappreciated.

I want to understand the connection.

Okay, this is a really important question.

And, like, also, before we even go into it, I am from a very long line of teachers.

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