Tenderoni Hotline #24: Grief Over Losing Objects + Injustice In The Workspace
Feminist Wellness
Béa Victoria Albina
4.9 • 1.1K Ratings
🗓️ 17 March 2026
⏱️ 14 minutes
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Summary
Tenderoni Hotline #24: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of the Feminist Wellness Podcast where we explore your most tender questions about healing, nervous system care, and returning home to yourself.
In today’s episode, we’re diving into two thoughtful questions about grief, empathy, and emotional boundaries, and what it means to care deeply without abandoning yourself in the process.
First, we explore something that often goes unnamed: grief over losing meaningful possessions. What happens when you lose a beloved object, like a piece of jewelry, a journal, a childhood item, or a home that held an entire chapter of your life? If you’ve ever felt embarrassed about how deeply something like that affected you, this conversation offers a compassionate reframe. We talk about why these losses can feel so profound, how objects can hold memory and meaning, and why your grief deserves to be honored without judgment.
Next, we turn to a question about witnessing mistreatment in the workplace. If you’ve ever felt deeply disturbed by abuse of power or injustice at work, and found yourself ruminating about it long after the moment has passed, this conversation will help you understand what’s happening in your nervous system. We explore the difference between empathy and emotional absorption, and how to practice boundaried empathy so you can care, advocate, and take action without burning yourself out.
You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of how grief, empathy, and nervous system activation intersect, along with gentle practices to help you hold your tenderness with more steadiness and care. So grab your coziest blanket, pour a warm drink, and come settle into the tenderness with me.
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| 0:00.0 | This is feminist wellness, and I'm your host, nurse practitioner, somatics, and nervous system nerd, and life coach, Bea Victoria Albina. |
| 0:18.3 | I'll show you how to get unstuck, drop the anxiety, perfectionism, |
| 0:21.7 | and codependency so you can live from your beautiful heart. Welcome, my love. Let's get started. |
| 0:32.5 | Hello, hello, my love. I hope this finds you doing so well. Welcome to another week's episode of the Tenderoni |
| 0:41.6 | Hotline where I answer your questions, because I love you. This one's really interesting. So I was |
| 0:48.7 | looking for resources on grief over losing favorite possessions. Not grief over losing a loved one, a friend, a pet. |
| 0:57.5 | What support can you share? |
| 0:59.7 | This one was really interesting because I also don't think this gets talked about nearly enough. |
| 1:04.1 | And I'm really glad you brought it up, many, many things. |
| 1:07.3 | So losing something you loved, a piece of jewelry, a bag you saved up for, a |
| 1:12.8 | childhood toy, a home, something irreplaceable that broke or got lost or got stolen, it can genuinely |
| 1:20.3 | like floor you. But here's the thing. Almost immediately comes that like horrible second wave. |
| 1:28.3 | Why am I upset about a thing? |
| 1:31.1 | Right? And that second wave is what I really want to address because it tends to make |
| 1:35.3 | everything worse. Like we talk so much here about not being meany pats to yourself because it makes everything else, everything worse. |
| 1:42.3 | Same same with that voice right because it is a |
| 1:45.6 | meany pants voice because here's the thing you're not just grieving the loss you're also judging |
| 1:51.6 | yourself for grieving it and that's one of the main things like there's a whole chapter in my book |
| 1:56.2 | in end emotional outsourcing all about shame and how shame is one of those potent things that |
| 2:01.8 | keeps us in emotional outsourcing, in our codependent perfectionist, in people-pleasing habits, |
| 2:06.6 | because we feel bad about ourselves because we're just having the fields we're already having, |
| 2:11.6 | and then it's this endless spiral, right? So here's what I'd offer. The idea that objects are |
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