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Feminist Wellness

Tenderoni Hotline #17: From Overfunctioning to Freedom: Healing in Anchored with Busayo Ayodele

Feminist Wellness

Béa Victoria Albina

Mental Health, Alternative Health, Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness

4.91K Ratings

🗓️ 27 January 2026

⏱️ 30 minutes

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Summary

Tenderoni Hotline #17: Hello, my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline. Today, I’m joined by the brilliant and multi-passionate Busayo Ayodele, a lawyer, mother, writer, and radiant force of nature. Busayo is a graduate of the Anchored program, and in this deeply inspiring conversation, she shares her journey from emotional overwhelm, perfectionism, and constant overfunctioning... to self-trust, nervous system safety, and true inner freedom.

We talk about what it means to stop living on autopilot and start showing up for yourself in real time. Not as a performance, but as an act of radical self-love. Busayo opens up about breaking the cycle of always putting others first, learning to regulate through life’s hardest moments, and how she’s now modeling emotional resilience and self-trust for her young daughter.

Together, we explore healing from functional freeze, the power of being seen in community, and the deep transformation that happens when we stop masking and start investing in ourselves. Not out of emergency, but out of devotion.

If you’ve ever wondered whether it’s really possible to shift lifelong habits of people-pleasing or perfectionism, let this episode be your evidence that it is. So get cozy, press play, and come listen to this gorgeous story of freedom, healing, and returning to your own center with Busayo.

Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: podcast@beatrizalbina.com

Learn more about Anchored and apply here: https://www.beatrizalbina.com/anchored

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Transcript

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0:00.0

This is feminist wellness, and I'm your host, nurse practitioner, somatics, and nervous system nerd, and life coach, Bea Victoria Albina.

0:16.8

I'll show you how to get unstuck, drop the anxiety, perfectionism, and codependency so you can live from your beautiful heart.

0:24.0

Welcome, my love. Let's get started.

0:29.9

Hello, hello, my love. I hope this finds you doing so well. This week, we are joined with a member of one of last year's anchored groups,

0:40.2

Boussayo. She is a force to be reckoned with. She is an absolutely incredible human. And as

0:46.0

always, I'm sharing her experience before, during, and after anchored as a way to inspire.

0:53.5

Because I know when I was in the deep, dark depths of my

0:56.8

emotional outsourcing, I had no models for what was possible, nowhere to aim for, because I didn't

1:04.7

really understand what life could look like on the other side of my own codependent perfectionist and people-pleasing habits.

1:12.6

And Boussayo is such an amazing example of what's possible.

1:17.1

And so I am absolutely thrilled to share her story with you.

1:21.4

As you're listening in, listen for what's similar.

1:24.2

Listen for what's really resonant with your own experience. And if by the end of it, you're thinking, I'll have what she is having, I would be delighted to have you join us in Anchored. You can learn more and apply now at my website, Beatrice albina.com. That's B-E-A-T-R-I-Z-Albina, A-L-B-A-N-B-A-N-A-N-A-D-A-N-A-L-B-A-N-A-N-A-N-A-N-A-B-A-A-B-A-A-B-A-T-R-I-Z, Albina, A-L-B-B-As-N-B-A-N-A-D-N-A-com slash get anchored. G-E-T-A-T-A-T-A-T. I cannot wait to see you there. Thank you so much for joining me here today. Would you be so kind as to introduce yourself and share your pronouns and a land acknowledgement

2:01.9

if you feel so moved?

2:03.4

Absolutely.

2:04.4

My name is Basayo Ayodeli, formerly Bessio A. Fadarin, but I've returned to my maiden

2:10.9

name.

2:11.9

I am by profession, a lawyer, and by passion, a lot more things.

2:20.8

I have now taken on the name of multi-passionate creative.

2:25.8

And that is because I love a multitude of creative things.

2:30.8

And Anchored has really helped me to really lean into these things a lot more. And so I've now updated my biography to include my creative interest, which includes

2:37.4

singing, writing, improv. I'm also a natural hair enthusiast and a writer. So those are some of the

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