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The Mel Robbins Podcast

Take Control of Your Life: A Toolkit for Healing

The Mel Robbins Podcast

SiriusXM Podcasts

Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health, Relationships, Health & Fitness

4.615.3K Ratings

🗓️ 23 January 2023

⏱️ 72 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, I’m making the topic of trauma easier to understand by taking you step by step through my recent revelation that I was struggling with past trauma. I was one of those people who thought I didn’t have trauma. And you may be like that too. But if you have trouble managing emotions, expressing your feelings, dealing with upset, you go on edge easily, you have trouble focusing, or you struggle with anything like anxiety…. This will be very eye opening. The words “trauma” and “nervous system” are thrown around like candy online. I want to share the profound things that I’ve learned about both topics and how I’ve started to address and heal the trauma in my nervous system. This episode is personal, it’s important, and tactical, and most of all – it’s packed with tools you can start using right now. I hope this episode opens your eyes in the way that it did mine, and makes you not only understand this topic – but yourself a little bit better. And, to go deeper, I have a free 9-page workbook for you that serves as a companion to this episode to help you with your own healing. Just click here to access it. And, this episode covers sensitive material, including discussion of trauma and sexual assault. If this topic isn’t for you right now – please skip this episode. Xo Mel In this episode, you’ll learn: 0:58: This episode is one of the most important I’ve ever created because of the powerful impact these learnings have had on my life. It will be the same for you. 7:40: What is trauma anyway? 8:40: Do you recognize yourself in these signs of past trauma? 10:00: Getting honest: my personal story. 21:15: What happens to me when I hear the sound of crunchy snow (and how this applies to you). 24:00: Do you have to remember trauma to heal from it? 30:30: If I have little-T trauma, does that mean my parents are to blame? 34:40: This is what your nervous system is (and it’s not what I used to think). 43:15: Here’s why your triggers were helpful then and why they’re not now. 50:00: How can you get yourself out of survival mode and start to focus again? 54:00: The difference between your two nervous systems. 56:30: Six takeaways to help you switch from fight or flight to rest and recovery Disclaimer If you uncover or have a history of trauma, consider enlisting the support of a trained therapist. This podcast episode and the companion workbook are not meant to be a substitute for therapeutic support.

Transcript

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0:00.0

Hey, it's Mel.

0:02.0

And welcome to what might be one of the most important episodes of the Mel Robbins podcast that I've ever done.

0:09.0

Let's do this.

0:14.0

I am so glad that you're here with me today and whether you've been a long time listener or this is your first time tuning into the Mel Robbins podcast,

0:23.0

you have tuned in to something incredible today.

0:28.0

My name is Mel Robbins. I'm a New York Times bestselling author and I am one of the world's most respected experts on change and motivation.

0:36.0

And I've been thinking about the topic that we're going to talk about today for a long time.

0:42.0

It is something that I've been wanting to talk to you about because it has had the single biggest difference in changing the quality of my day-to-day life.

0:51.0

And that topic is repairing your nervous system and healing trauma from your past.

0:57.0

Now, there are three reasons why this topic matters and why I'm so glad that you and I are going to talk about this today.

1:04.0

Reason number one, there is so much confusion and misinformation out there about trauma, especially with TikTok and Reels and YouTube shorts,

1:14.0

all that bite-sized, snack-worthy content, some of it's awesome.

1:18.0

But when you sprinkle the word trauma or the phrase nervous system repair around like it's candy, it overwhelms you and it makes people unsure about what trauma is, how you process it, how you identify it, how you even begin the process of healing it.

1:35.0

I am getting so many questions from listeners like this one from Benny.

1:41.0

Hey, Mo, my name is Benny. So I hear all this stuff about healing your nervous system on TikTok and social media and it's kind of overwhelming.

1:49.0

How do you know where to start? How can you even begin to acknowledge something that needs to be healed?

1:54.0

Benny, thank you so much for your question and I want you to know, you are not alone.

1:59.0

We get a version of that question over a dozen times a day.

2:04.0

Today's episode is dedicated to answering it.

2:08.0

Here's what we're going to do. First of all, we are going to simplify this topic so that you can understand it and so that this episode serves as a resource for you.

2:18.0

So you can forward this episode to people who you think may be dealing with the issues we're discussing today.

2:25.0

Because without understanding what trauma is and how we all have trauma from our past and how that trauma impacts your nervous system, you can't acknowledge the reality of what's going on in your body

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