Susan Piver is a New York Times bestselling author of 9 books and a renowned Buddhist teacher. This is Susan's second time on the show because we love her and her work so much. Her new book, The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern Relationships walks us through the Four Noble Truths of Buddhism as they apply to relationships. You don't have to be a Buddhist or study Buddhism to get a lot out of this conversation and her new book. She teaches universal pieces of wisdom that, when applied, will grow and deepen and enrich your relationships to a whole new level. Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program. Please Support The Show with a Donation  Quip toothbrush "brush better" on Oprah's list of good things, new brush heads every 3 months (dentist recommended) for $5 including free shipping worldwide! First replacement brush heads free www.getquip.com/wolf   LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/wolf $50 credit towards your first job post - a better way to find talent for your organization In This Interview, Susan Piver and I Discuss... Her book, The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern Relationships The emotions underneath fear, hatred and greed Depression being a calcified sadness Turning towards sadness The four noble truths of love: Relationships are uncomfortable, Thinking that they should be comfortable contributes to that uncomfortableness, Meeting the discomfort and instability together IS love, There's a threefold path to do all of this Feeling your feelings without the story - what does it feel like in your body? In the environment? The difference between anger and irritation in the body The enormous space that opens up when we drop the expectation that when we solve "this" problem, the relationship will stabilize and we'll be happy Look at the problem itself as a team in relationships rather than blaming one another The threefold path: Precision, Openness, Going beyond The role and importance of good manners and honesty in relationships Good manners = thinking of the other person and making some accommodation, some space for them in your actions and your words Opening to the other person as they are in a relationship Intimacy has no end, it can always go deeper. You can always reveal more and you can always discover more In a relationship, commit to intimacy over love Addiction and abuse not included in this picture of relationship! How you can't think your way into intimacy or inspiration - they come when you make the space Passion between two people will constantly arise, abide and dissolve and though difficult, this is not a problem Wishing you were in a different part of the cycle is a problem, however Relax with what is and a space will open up Her take on suffering Her beautiful explanation of the concept of non-attachment/detachment A spiritual practice frees people up to feel everything in the moment, as it is Your life IS the spiritual path In meditation we're not trying to get anywhere, we're trying to BE somewhere Meditating in't about focusing on something but rather, bringing the brain down from some dreamworld into reality in the moment  Please Support The Show with a Donation See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices