I'm Oprah Winfrey. Welcome to Super Soul Conversations, the podcast. I believe that one of

the most valuable gifts you can give yourself is time, taking time to be more fully present.

Your journey to become more inspired and connected to the deeper world around us starts right

now.

Pastor A.R. Bernard, the founder of the largest church in New York City, reveals in his most

recent book, Four Things Women Want From a Man, why he believes when it comes to creating

meaningful relationships, there are four things God wants and women should expect from a man.

The core of his message centers on what he says of the vital qualities every man needs

to cultivate a healthy and successful relationship, maturity, decisiveness, consistency and strength.

I read that your intention as a founder, one of the largest congregations in America, has

remained consistent for the past 30 years, and that is to make faith relevant. How have

you done that?

One means two things for us. Number one, it means practical. It has to be something that

you can apply the moment you leave the doors of the church service. Second, it has to be

socially applicable. It has to help you make sense of the world around you. So I get the

chance to shape the lens of people's thinking, their worldview through the eyes of faith.

For me, all life is spiritual. What do you mean?

When we look at spirituality, we look at the makeup of the human person.

Because how do you define it? How do you define spirituality?

Spirituality is our human capacity to know and experience God. We experience God through

worship, through prayer, through fasting, through silence.

Silence, absolutely. Salitude. Salitude is not being alone, being away from the noise

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