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This month, The Awesome Marriage, we're talking about subtle marriage killers. All couples have great intentions to have a happy

and a healthy marriage, but so many of us end up getting off track. And there are subtle

things that can really eat away and destroy your marriage. So today we're going to be talking

about one subtle marriage killer that affects a lot of marriages, which is constant complaining. So really, there are two main

types of complaining in a marriage. There's the first type, which is complaining about your

spouse to your spouse and their behavior, whatever it may be. And then the second type is

complaining to your spouse about life or work or just anything in general that you're displeased with.

So both can be damaging to a marriage if they're constant and if they're prolonged.

But let's kind of talk about that first issue first.

Dr. Hymn, why is it harmful to complain to your spouse about your spouse constantly?

Well, it's going to destroy your marriage.

I mean, your spouse, you know,

I've had spouses where that has happened and the spouse has always been complained against,

just really almost gives up. It's like I can never do anything right. The harder I try,

the more I get criticized, you know, that constant complaining. And eventually they just almost

give up. And so it's going to disconnect you

make your spouse feel like they're a failure they're going to feel discouraged and at some point

some anger's probably going to rise up in there so there's just no nothing good that comes out of

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