What up guys? Alright, there's nothing I love freaking more than sitting down with an epic woman to talk about business, talk about relationships, talking about our marriage with very, very strong men and how we navigate being independent, building our own business, being a freaking badass and yet at the same time being a wonderful partner. You may know her as the incredible wife to rich role. My girl Julia Peeert, but guys, let me tell you, she's a damn powerhouse on her own. So damn excited for you guys to listen to this interview.

We go deep on why she doesn't actually consider her first two marriages a year as well as reveals the most important relationship in her life and the role relationships play in the evolution of her becoming her authentic self. So guys, without freaking further ado,

let's dive in right now with my girl, Julia Piedt.

For the beginning times after I left him,

I had a very hard time taking responsibility

for the fact that I had allowed someone to treat me that way.

But one of the things that I'd like to share,

and this is one of my great secrets

for having successful relationship. Gini, welcome to Women of Impact. Lisa, thank you so much for having me. I'm so excited to be here. Oh my God, oh, I'm so excited to have you. Because you are an incredible freaking entrepreneur with your plant-based cheeses, which are just Koshimu and you also are married to an incredible human who I know, Rich Roll. Now when I look at you and I've heard about, again, entrepreneur, amazing partner, you guys just make each other shine. And as I started to dig into you, I had no idea actually that Rich was your third marriage and you spoke about how much of your past marriage is impacted your life and how you showed up. And so that's where I'd love to start is what are the key things that you found that being with Rich really allowed you to blossom as an entrepreneur and as an independent badass woman that you are? Yeah, thanks so much. Well, I mean, it's important that I highlight that I don't regard any of my marriages as failures. Okay? So I think that relationships are about contracts that you have with certain individuals. And some of these contracts are forever, we could say forever, or at least in this lifetime, but some of them are just for periods of time. They could be to bring some children into the world, they could be for some other type of experience, any kind of experience to learn, to explore, to really create evolution together in some form. So for me, in my own experience, I've had three marriages, but I've been deeply in love six times. So for me, my timeline with love was not a straight one, let's say, or a certain one. So in my case, my first marriage was what I like to call a very essential step in my mastery, But this marriage was an abusive marriage and what I would describe as a hell realm that I grappled with for about a seven year period. So very, very intense. Then I... But for you, move on. I really want to go deep into this. Okay, don't mind. No, I don't mind. Because I think each stable, everything you're talking about really has become the building blocks that makes you you who are as able to sit here today as like I said an amazing incredible entrepreneur and a beautiful having a beautiful relationship. So everyone right now is freaking out on how on earth can you sit here and say it was an abusive relationship it was for seven years and yet it was a successful relationship. Yeah, hard to say and definitely hard when I was in it. So I was in my 20s when this man came into my life. So I was not fully embodied in who I am, you know, didn't fully know who I was, and the big key that was the catalyst that put me into this experience is that I was a shadow musician, meaning that I was a singer since I was six years old, but I made decisions to not sing. I did other things. And he was in the music business and was representing very famous bands. And it was a very sort of heady like seductive world, you know, I was backstage passes to Elton John and Tina Turner and tears for fears and David Bowie and

Rolling Stones and guns and roses and just everyone right so as a 20 something it was a very

It's it seduced me, you know and even though this was an individual that I was not initially attracted to this individual pursued me relentlessly, and even though after I discovered his violence and his trauma, really, his trauma, I left him many times, but he would not leave me alone. So he pursued me in the city. He would sit outside my work. He would call my family. If I did move out, he would be at my sister's apartment. It was a full-on thing. It was not like I didn't want to get out of it or I hadn't tried to get out of it. And I also didn't realize that the abuse was there until I was already living with him. So I would see it in little doses, like in the form of him exploding or losing his temper, hanging up the phone. And I had the illusion that I had things under control. So I felt like I was really in the more aware position. I could see that he was struggling, that he had a lot of immaturity, and also as a spiritually focused individual, I was subscribing to this idea that I should forgive him, that I should believe him when he was sorry, which he always was. It wasn't like it was happening all the time. I would have periods and months of great fun and world expansion and all these good things. And then the abuse cycle would come around. But it's like that. It's a cycle. So it was a very dangerous and very intense time. I wasn't with him for the entire seven years. I actually was with him broke up with him, had another boyfriend for a year and a half and went back and married him. Wow, okay, so in that moment then, if you identify everything, because this is so common, this is the thing. If we can really freaking piece this apart, we're literally about to change people's lives.

Because sometimes you want to hear certain things. And so even if somebody becomes maybe like the stall courage, eventually there is that possibility that if we're insecure enough that they say the right thing that makes us feel full, that makes us want to go back, I'm so curious, what was that thing that you had told yourself in that moment of why you then went back, married him,

because I always think about,

if we could tell I younger self something, now I would. was that thing that you had told yourself in that moment of why you then went back, married him,

because I always think about like,

if we could tell our younger self something. Now what to do. Yeah, what to do. Now here's the beautiful thing. I think you sitting here today is the person who needed to go through all of that. I don't wanna say need it, that's the wrong word. But you are who you are today because of it. Absolutely. want people to have to go through it. Right. So what is that thing that you

actually can go back and like, oh, those were the things that I can identify. The

biggest cause of it. Absolutely. But I never want people to have to go through it. Right. So what is that thing that you actually can go back and like, oh, those were the things that I can identify? The biggest error that I feel that I made and, and, and, and, and, you know, I don't regret anything in my life. So I didn't make an error. It was part of my mastery, which is what I told you. It was a very difficult initiation into my mastery. But the thing that I learned is that I learned that the biggest

error is what I told you. It was a very difficult initiation into my mastery. But the thing that I learned is that I learned that the biggest error is to put another person before you. And in my water tiger spiritual community where I mentor women and people internationally, the whole platform is a living sphere of techniques that allow you to embody the truth of who you are so that you can love yourself and nurture yourself and be there for yourself as a first relationship. Not a second relationship, not after the kids before, number one. So I learned that that was the error because I put him before me because I could see his pain and I could see his goodness and I could see that he was suffering and I could see that he didn't have the awareness that I had and then the other part is being young and 20 and the heady part of the backstage tickets know all that kind of stuff. So it was a very severe teaching and when I finally did get away I would have these recurring dreams that he would not leave me alone like in the dream I would be telling him I don't love you I don't love you and he would be grabbing onto my leg like literally not letting me me go. And for the beginning times after I left him, I had a very hard time taking responsibility for the fact that I had allowed someone to treat me that way. Because I was, you know, I was hurt. I had a lot of hurt over that. And I was never violent with him. Like it was never something that I did. It was all just this abuse cycle. But it wasn't until I took responsibility as a creator being that this was part of my path. It was part of my becoming. You were just saying, this is who you are. But I mean, this is part of me becoming. And so that's why I call it a vital step in my mastery. That I am so grateful that I got out of, that had one step been to the left or the right. My life could have been over or it would have been drastically different. And the reason that I married him was literally to run the race car into the wall so that it would explode because it kept yo-yoing back. You know, like I couldn't quite get out. I couldn't get away from him. So it was quite, it's quite a thing. You know, you're the first person that's ever asked me the depth of this experience I've spoken about it before but never really at this level. Yeah

It's it's so important because there's something that you just said I do want to update like oh, go that's the thing Well, you said one step to the right one step to the less like it could have been over and I This that that haunts me girl that fricking haunts me and that's why I do this show That's why I need to go deep on things because someone listening right now that one little step to the right changes their life

But if they can hear the that freaking wants me and that's why I do this show. That's why I need to go deep on things because someone listening right now,

that one little step to the right changes their life.

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