Stop Wasting Your Energy: How to Focus on What Actually Matters | E483

Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

YAP Media Network | Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Relationships, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.7 • 890 Ratings

🗓️ 6 November 2025

⏱️ 45 minutes

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Summary

Have you ever said yes when every part of you was quietly screaming no? Or pushed through your day on fumes, wondering where your energy went? We’ve all been there - doing a million things that look productive but leave us totally drained. In this episode, I’m talking with psychologist and author Dr. Diana Hill about how to reclaim your energy and focus by using them wisely. Diana’s new book, Wise Effort: How to Focus Your Genius Energy on What Matters Most, is about learning to tell the difference between what fuels you and what quietly burns you out. We get into how to recognize “unwise effort” - those moments when you’re forcing, overdoing, or holding on too tight - and how to reconnect with your genius energy, that natural flow that feels effortless and alive. She also shares simple ways to check in with yourself: a 24-hour “regret scan” to see where your energy went off-track, and four questions to help you decide what’s actually worth your time, attention, and heart. It’s all about being intentional, not perfect, and remembering that the most powerful thing you can do is choose where your energy goes. As you listen, notice where your energy feels pulled, and what choices leave you feeling lighter, freer, more yourself. What are you still holding on to that’s quietly exhausting you? And what would it look like to let that go? Episode Breakdown: 00:00 What Is Wise Effort and Why Energy Matters 02:50 Three Patterns That Drain Your Energy 07:04 Finding Your Genius Energy 11:04 Regret as a Compass for Wise Energy 22:00 The Four-Question Filter for Wise Decisions 29:39 How Relationships Affect Your Energy 42:30 Reclaiming Energy and Focus Through Wise Effort If you’ve been feeling scattered or depleted, this may be your moment to pause and realign. Working with one of our expert therapists or coaches can help you understand where your energy and focus are going - and guide you toward choices that feel more grounded, intentional, and restorative. Schedule your free consultation to start creating the balance you’ve been craving. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyGrowing Self

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0:00.0	Usually with transformation, it's something deep underneath all of it that when you get a handle
0:06.6	on that, when you start to understand your own energy use and some of these basic principles,
0:11.1	it transforms all of it. So it'll transform your health. It'll transform your relationships.
0:16.3	It'll transform how you parent, how you work when you get a handle on these core principles of wise effort.
0:22.7	This is Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby.
0:24.6	You're listening to Love, Happiness and Success.
0:27.7	And today we are talking with Dr. Diana Hill, a clinical psychologist and international expert on acceptance and commitment therapy.
0:37.3	And the author of a brand new book called
0:39.4	Wise Effort, How to Focus Your Genius Energy on What Matters Most Exciting Stuff.
0:48.9	Hi, Dr. Diana. Where should we start? Why do you start by introducing yourself?
0:53.6	Yeah, well, thank you. I'm a psychologist,
0:55.6	but I have a lot of different roles that I play in terms of that. My interest really is in energy
1:02.7	and how we misuse, misdirect, get our energy all scattered. And what is our genius energy? What is our Genesecois? What is our offering to this world? And how can we put it in the right places at the right time so that it feeds back to us, but also is of service to others? And I'm super down for regenerative personal energy and what that looks like in our parenting, in our work, in our
1:28.4	relationships, in our health, and in our creativity, all these different domains that are important
1:33.3	to us. So that's all about wise effort. That's incredible. You know, and if it's okay to ask,
1:40.2	I'm always so curious about my guests. And I'm wondering if the origins of this work came from a personal life experience.
1:50.6	Oh, many experiences.
1:52.4	You know, I think that my life has been a spiral of a force of energy within me that has gotten off track many, many times over. So it could
2:04.6	date back all the way to my teens where I struggled a lot with eating disorders to my graduate
2:10.9	school, my PhD years, where I struggled with getting so caught up in competition and proving myself that I lost myself,
2:20.1	all the way to, you know, after that, becoming a parent and a partner and losing track of what's
2:27.3	most important in all of that.
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