STOP WAITING TO BE PICKED AND START DOING THE PICKING with clinical psychologist Dr. Molly Burrets

Everything is the Best

Dear Media, Pia Baroncini

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4.6 • 1.2K Ratings

🗓️ 18 June 2025

⏱️ 65 minutes

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Summary

In this deeply insightful episode, I sits down with Dr. Molly Burrets, a licensed clinical psychologist and expert in attachment theory, relational trauma, and emotional regulation. Known for her compassionate, grounded approach to healing, Dr. Burrets helps us unpack the roots of why we choose the relationships we do, how early experiences shape our sense of safety, and what it really means to rewire our nervous systems for love, trust, and connection.

Together, they explore:

* Why we focus on being PICKED instead of doing the PICKING

* The truly important role of boundaries

* The evolutionary reason women are so nasty to each other

* Being compassionate with ourselves

* How to lean into the fact that so much is just out of our control

Whether you're single, in a situationship, healing from heartbreak, or simply ready to break free from old patterns, this conversation offers both validation and actionable steps toward relational clarity. Dr. Burrets brings the science and the soul. You’ll want to take notes.

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0:00.0	The following podcast is a Dear Media production.
0:03.8	Hi, today we have Dr. Molly Brett, who's a licensed clinical psychologist and expert in attachment theory, relationship, trauma, and emotional regulation.
0:29.2	So we cover the gamut in this podcast today.
0:33.4	My ADD brain goes all over the place, but there is a nice through line.
0:36.9	There are some bangers in this episode.
0:40.1	Like this is one of those episodes that you really want to like send to your girlfriends
0:44.6	or listen to in a moment where you are feeling fucking lost because, you know,
0:50.7	my thesis from this and my hope out of this. And what I talk about is that we approach
0:56.6	relationships and jobs and all these things from the perspective of like, I hope I get picked.
1:04.1	And we just need to rewrite the narrative to like, do I want this? Am I picking this? Is this a good
1:09.3	person or a job for me or whatever? I mean,
1:11.8	we talk about a lot of amazing things in this episode, why women are so fucking mean to each
1:17.0	other. There's a lot in here, but I'm really happy with this episode. Sometimes, like, I record
1:25.1	things. And during the podcast, I'm just like, I hear our guests or like really special guests, like saying something.
1:33.6	And I'm like, I think this could really change somebody's life.
1:35.8	And so this is one of those episodes.
1:38.4	So please, please, please, enjoy.
1:41.0	Well, thank you so much for coming on the podcast.
1:43.6	Thanks for having me.
1:44.5	I'm so happy to be here.
1:45.5	We were just talking offline about how you cover every single topic.
1:51.2	So I'm like trying to figure out what I wanted to talk to you about.
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