Welcome to today's episode of The Mindset Mentor Podcast. I am your host Rob Dial.

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Today, I'm going to be talking about something that took me 36 years to

understand and you know I love self-development it is more than half of my life. I've been into it and I've been teaching it to other people,

but I realized at about 36 years old there was a really big problem with self-development in the way that I looked at it

but also the way that most people ended up looking at it. I looked at myself for years as an unfinished project and I looked at myself kind of like a mechanic

that looks at a car and wants to fix the car so that that car can run again.

Like this thing is broken and that thing is broken and so therefore the car itself is broken

and I need to fix that so that I can get myself running again.

And that's the way that I looked at myself.

I got into self-improvement because I wanted to fix parts of me that I hated, that I wanted to change, that I wanted to get rid of, that I did not enjoy.

And so I created unconsciously a battle within myself. It was, hey, my conscious self, Rob, does not like this part of myself, does not like the way that I am here.

And I will not be happy or I will not be normal or I will not feel good about myself or things

will not be the way that I want them to be until I fix X, Y, and Z.

And so I created a battle within myself.

It was all of these little conflicts within myself.

There was always for years, 17 years, my first 17 years a person of element there was always something wrong

with me I hate that I'm lazy I hate that I'm judgmental I hate that I'm selfish I hate this I hate that I hate this I hate that and I have to change all of them

And so I had a somebody asked me a question in Mindset Mentor Plus,

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