The wrong relationship magnifies your insecurity at the heart of all your interpersonal issues with anybody else is your own inability to welcome to the school of greatness.

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What are three things that you would tell, you know, the mal of 26 years ago before getting married?

To set yourself up, if you could say three things that you wish you could have done, not wish you'd have gone differently, but if you could just coach yourself then.

And say, you know what, there's going to be amazing times, there's going to be challenges, but if you could work on these three things now, it'll really minimize a lot of stress or heartache or confusion or frustration that might occur in those 26 years.

What would those three things be? In order to have just more harmony consistently.

Wow. Knowing that there's going to be challenges and there's no perfect marriage or relationship.

Oh, God. Yes.

But what would be the three things to create more harmony moving forward?

Number one, if you can afford it.

Yep. What therapy?

Get into therapy now as a couple.

And I'll come back to that. The second thing is work on your own.

Because the secret to a happy relationship is you being happy.

And the person that you're with being a happy person.

That's like like somebody once said to me, you want to know the secret or happy marriage. Mal, I said, what is it? He said, marry somebody who's happy.

So true. Otherwise, you're always trying to coach someone to become happy.

Correct. And so I feel like therapy is incredible because a lot of successful relationships.

And I would put Chris and I in this category.

A lot of successful relationships that go the distance go the distance because you're good at the logistics.

You're good at the doing.

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