Welcome to The Jasmine Star Show. In today's episode, we're diving into one of the most important and sometimes uncomfortable topics in any relationship, money.

This episode is a repurposed portion from our earlier conversation with Rameet, Saiti, the author of I Will Teach You to Be Rich, and the host of the wildly popular podcast of the same name.

Rameet walks us through money scripts.

Specific phrases and frameworks you can use to talk to your partner about everything from starting your business to navigating the challenges of money making. If you've ever felt stuck

when it comes to discussing finances with your partner, This episode is for you. Let's jump in.

You had said, it's all about the words that we use when we talk about money. In this post,

you wrote that the way we talk about money defines the roles that it plays in our relationship,

specifically in our relationship with our partners. Can you speak a little bit more like why this

happens and why does the way we talk about money matter?

Most people don't talk about money unless there's a problem. We're totally reactive to money.

Think about it. If I take the average person and I say, when was the last time you talked about money?

They're like, oh, and she spent too much or he spent too much or we couldn't realize which account we're going to pay out of. I go, when was the last time you sat down proactively with an agenda, set on the calendar, and you talked about what you want to do with your money, how you want to dream about your money, how you want to create a rich life. And they look at me like I'm absolutely bonkers. They go, that's weird. Having an agenda with your partner, that's weird. I go, you know what's weird? Spending the next 40 years of your life arguing about who much spent too much on asparagus at the grocery store. I don't want to live that life where I have to pull out that Safeway receipt and look at it and analyze every last amount. And so first, we don't talk

about it proactively. That's number one. Second, when we do talk about it, the language we use

is loaded and often negative or accusatory. Why'd you spend that much? What happened here?

We're never going to be able to pay this off. And I would like us to reframe that into questions like, when was the last time we sat down and discussed what we get

to do with our money? Where do we want to go this year? Who do we want to bring with us? What kind of

experiences do we want to create for our children? Those questions, even how aggressively do we

want to pay off our debt? That also can be a dream. But if you are living down in the weeds and you

are consumed with these $3 questions, you never really get to ask yourself

the $30,000 questions. And that is what money can really be about. I love this. And so somebody's

listening, like, well, great. How often do you recommend sitting down with your partner and having

these conversations, like the time on your calendar conversation? Once a month, minimum, either once every two weeks or once a month, should be about a one-hour

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