Stop Explaining Yourself—The #1 Trick to Shut Down Gaslighting & Passive Aggression | Jefferson Fisher PT 1

Women of Impact

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Education, Society & Culture, Mental Health, Relationships, Health & Fitness

4.7 • 657 Ratings

🗓️ 5 March 2025

⏱️ 53 minutes

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Today, Lisa Bilyeu delves into the world of communication and confidence with the insightful Jefferson Fisher. A renowned communicator and educator, Jefferson offers invaluable advice on how to harness the power of assertive communication to boost confidence and navigate challenging interactions. In Part 1 of this two-part series, Jefferson shares his philosophy that "confidence is as assertive does," encouraging listeners to engage in assertive actions to cultivate self-assurance. The discussion explores the importance of setting boundaries, understanding the impact of silence, and the art of pausing to manage emotions effectively. During this enlightening conversation, Jefferson and Lisa examine the strategies for responding to dismissive remarks without losing composure and the power of asking intent-based questions to shift dynamics in conversations. This episode lays the foundation for reclaiming personal power by mastering the ability to pause and reflect, instead of reacting impulsively. Join us for an episode that promises to elevate your communication skills and confidence levels, setting the stage for deeper self-awareness and growth. SHOWNOTES: 00:00 Introduction to Confidence and Assertiveness 00:31 Using Silence to Empower 01:12 The Power of Boundaries and Follow-Through 01:40 Responding to Dismissive Statements with Confidence 01:55 Jefferson’s Philosophy: Assertive Action Builds Confidence 02:26 Effective Responses to “You're Too Sensitive” 02:56 Impact of Reacting Emotionally and How to Avoid It FOLLOW JEFFERSON FISHER: Website: jeffersonfisher.com Instagram: @jeffersonfisher Facebook: @jeffersonfisher CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Audible: Sign up for a free 30-day trial at https://audible.com/WOI Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out. Quince: Check out Quince: https://quince.com/woi OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at https://oneskin.co Netsuite: Download the CFO’s Guide to AI and Machine Learning at https://NetSuite.com/women NPR Fresh Air: Tune into Fresh Air from NPR to hear some of the most insightful interviews anywhere—wherever you get your podcasts. ********************************************************************** Listening to Women of Impact on Amazon Music is about as easy as it gets. You can listen on the app, which is super freaking easy to navigate, or you can just ask my homie, Alexa. it's that simple. So if you're ready, my homie, to be a freaking badass, then listen and follow Women of Impact on Amazon Music. ********************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:52.1	What's up, ladies. Today, today, today, we are tackling something that I think
0:57.1	every single woman needs to master. How to stay cool, calm and collected and totally in control
1:04.1	in any conversation. Now think about how many times you've walked away from an argument thinking,
1:10.0	damn, I should
1:11.0	have said that or found yourself actually explaining or found yourself over explaining and then
1:16.5	apologising or even when you weren't in the wrong.
1:20.4	My homie, no more losing your power in a conversation again.
1:24.3	And that's why I've got Jefferson Fisher in the house. Now guys, he's a trial lawyer,
1:29.7	a communication expert, and the guy who is about to hand us the playbook on how to stay
1:34.6	freaking confident and in control, no matter who you're talking to. This episode is one of my
1:41.3	all-time favorites. So in part one, Jefferson is breaking down why confidence
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