Stop Defending Yourself — Start Listening and Win Any Negotiation
Big Swings Only
American Negotiation Institute
4.7 • 751 Ratings
🗓️ 11 June 2026
⏱️ 72 minutes
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| 0:00.0 | You might be excellent at your job. |
| 0:02.0 | You might negotiate deals, manage teams, and communicate with precision in every professional setting you walk into. |
| 0:09.0 | But what happens when you come home? |
| 0:11.0 | So you can communicate and negotiate really well at work, but you're failing at home to the point that it causes a divorce. |
| 0:20.0 | Not always, right? There's other things, |
| 0:22.7 | but very, very frequently, it is broken communication. Today's guest is Alice Shikina, |
| 0:30.4 | mediator, arbitrator, trained actor, and author of the upcoming book, Don't Sleep on the Couch, |
| 0:36.3 | winning more arguments without losing your marriage. Alice has spent her entire career in of the upcoming book, Don't Sleep on the Couch, Winning More Arguments Without Losing Your Marriage. |
| 0:39.4 | Alice has spent her entire career inside the most emotionally charged conversations people have, |
| 0:45.5 | divorce mediation, workplace disputes, and relationship breakdowns, |
| 0:49.8 | and she has seen the same pattern play out over and over again. |
| 0:55.0 | The reason why your kids are walking all over you is because you need to be a better negotiator. |
| 1:01.0 | In this conversation, Alice breaks down why the skills that make us effective at work |
| 1:07.0 | seem to disappear the moment we walk through the front door and what we can actually do |
| 1:12.6 | about it. And one of my favorite parts of the episode is when she explains why de-escalation |
| 1:17.5 | does not start during the conflict. It actually starts long before one ever happens. |
| 1:24.8 | The de-escalation does not start at the point of conflict. It starts prior to |
| 1:30.0 | their being any kind of a conflict. That is critical. She makes the case that most relationship |
| 1:35.9 | fights aren't actually about what they appear to be about. If you've ever felt unheard at home |
| 1:41.6 | or been told that you weren't listening, this episode is for you. |
| 1:46.0 | This episode is brought to you by Granola, Shopify, HomeServe, and What Not. If you want to stay |
| 1:52.0 | fully present in every meeting while still walking away with clear structured notes, try |
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