Stop Being the Good Girl and Become Inconvenient! | Terri Cole PT 1

Women of Impact

Impact Theory

Education, Society & Culture, Mental Health, Relationships, Health & Fitness

4.7 • 657 Ratings

🗓️ 27 November 2024

⏱️ 49 minutes

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Welcome back to another compelling episode of Women of Impact! Today, we're diving deep into the world of personal boundaries, narcissistic family dynamics, and the power of self-preservation. Joining us is the insightful Terri Cole, an expert in boundaries and emotional intelligence. In this episode, our host Lisa Bilyeu opens up about her journey towards self-empowerment, particularly her desire to feel strong enough to leave a relationship in the event of infidelity. We'll explore the complexities of dealing with narcissistic mothers, the importance of setting and enforcing boundaries, and how to handle inappropriate or intrusive questions with confidence. Terri brings a wealth of strategies, from using humor to deflect provocations to preparing mentally for challenging family gatherings. She also emphasizes the significance of self-awareness, self-preservation, and the necessity of clear, open communication in maintaining healthy relationships. Whether you're struggling with boundary issues, dealing with a narcissistic parent, or looking for practical tips on maintaining your mental health, this episode is packed with valuable insights and actionable advice. Then, We'll dive deep into the art of setting boundaries with in-laws, the challenges of maintaining independence in a partnership, and the importance of clear communication. Whether you're dealing with toxic family members, navigating difficult in-law relationships, or simply striving for a healthier family dynamic, this episode is packed with valuable tips and powerful stories to inspire your journey. Tune in as we explore the delicate balance of maintaining personal authenticity and protecting your mental health amidst the complexities of family expectations and societal norms. It's a conversation you won't want to miss! SHOWNOTES Challenge invasive questions with "Why ask me that?" Strategically prepare to manage family gathering interactions. Setting boundaries takes time and practice. Understanding narcissistic mothers: It's a hidden struggle. Ineffective delegation leads to disordered boundaries. Betrayed friend's trust drops relationship level. Unwillingness to discuss toxic, narcissistic relationships. Stopped engaging due to unhealthy relationship dynamics. Overcame abuse; family reacted with disbelief, slander. Boundaries clash with cultural differences, acceptance needed. CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS: Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa Found Banking: Sign up for Found for FREE today at https://found.com/lisa. Caraway: Visit https://carawayhome.com/woi or use code WOI at checkout and get 10% off your next purchase! Masterclass: 15% off any annual membership at https://masterclass.com/lisa FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en LISTEN AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:22.4	All right, ladies, ladies, ladies, we all know that Thanksgiving is just around the corner.
0:28.8	And I got a question for you. How many of you are dreading it?
0:33.0	How many of you are actually worried about being around your family or having family drama
0:38.8	when it comes to holiday gatherings?
0:41.6	I get this very often from a lot of you guys, where you get those inappropriate questions
0:47.6	and those nosy, passive aggressive comments and the emotional rollercoaster that leaves you
0:53.7	more drained than the post-dinner food
0:55.9	coma. Well, buckle up because today's episode is going to change all of that. I really do listen
1:02.7	to the problems that we women go through and then try my best to serve you guys with the
1:08.2	information and the knowledge in order to you to take your power back.
1:11.6	And one of the things that I hear over and over and over again is, oh my God, I've done all this work on my confidence,
1:17.6	and yet somehow I find myself with my family feeling like a child again.
1:24.6	Now, I don't know if it sounds familiar, but it definitely sounds familiar to me.
1:28.9	So today, I've got my girl, the boundary boss, herself Terry Cole, and she's going to give
1:33.6	us exactly, exactly verbatim, a script of what we can do and how we can approach things,
1:40.0	what we can even say, in order for us to survive and thrive and have our own backs during the holiday season.
1:47.2	Now we're breaking down how you can actually respond to your cousin Bobby who asks you why you're single
1:53.2	or to your aunt who asks you why don't you have children. We then talk about the secret to how to actually
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