Hey, welcome back to another episode of the Relationship Coaching School podcast. I'm your host,

Jason, and we're going to dive in to difficult conversations. I'm going to try to help you

remember how to stop avoiding difficult conversations, because they will destroy your relationship life if that's your approach.

So all you conflict avoiders listen up.

And this is what we've got to help our clients with if we're a coach or therapist.

Because people are understandably terrified to have difficult conversations.

It's just, there's a lot of reasons, right? So in this

episode, we're going to talk briefly about the cost of not having difficult conversations,

the benefits to having them, and how to begin. That'll be what we cover. All right.

Okay. So let's look at the cost, right? Just think of someone right now that you're not

having a conversation with. I guarantee you there's someone in your life who you could have

a difficult conversation with. And because you haven't been having it, it's like you're maybe avoiding it, right?

Family member is a common target, an intimate partner is a common one,

or a coworker is another common one.

So these are typically high- high stakes environments where it's most

difficult for us to lean in and engage and take a risk. And notice your stories as to why you're

avoiding this conversation. You likely have a past negative experience or you have a future

fear assumption about what you think is going to happen. And often what we fear is it'll just make

the whole thing worse, right? So why would I, why the hell, Jason, would I bring that up if it's going to make it worse?

And making it worse is everything like it starts a bigger fight, we get into a fight,

uh, the truth comes out and it just turns to do a total disaster. They feel judged, we feel judged,

uh, we all feel a bunch of uncomfortable feelings that we don't want to feel. And ultimately, the relationship ends. That's one of our worst fears,

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