Just in case you didn't know I have two podcasts one is called love and abuse and I tell you how to navigate the difficult relationship that's over at love and abuse.com and the other is this one the overwhelmed brain going strong for ten years now this one is about navigating the difficulties of life in general. I hope you get a ton of value from both of them. Welcome to the overwhelmed brain where you'll learn to make decisions that are right

for you so that you can create the life you want now.

Hey, this is Paul Kolyani and I'm here to help you learn to deal with difficult people and

tackle life's challenges without compromising who you are. His show consists of my

personal opinions and is meant for informational purposes only.

Always seek a professional free mental health and well-being.

I gotta say it.

I am supposed to say that every time because I really do want you to find the right help for you. I might not be that guy. I might have information that is helpful or I might not. But that's up to you to decide. that's up to you to figure out what you need to do with your life and hopefully I can help you get there.

I'm hoping that you've listened to this show before, but you haven't welcome to the show I am so glad that you are here

And if you are a regular listener or you're just starting to listen regularly I am also glad you're here and if you've been listening a long time like 10 years

November 13th 2023 is 10 years for the overwhelmed brain. Just a personal triumph. I'm just sharing that because one, it's the

longest job I've ever had, not that I call it a job, but I'm kind of a four-year guy. I will do a job for four years. I'll get burnt out and then I'll move on to the next one. That's been my life. That has been my life for my entire life that has been how I've operated most of

it was because I was a people pleaser and what that means is or at least that was one of my dis-function.

I was a people pleaser, and I never spoke up for myself.

I never shared what was truly on my mind because I didn't want to upset anyone, or at least that was my perception of what would happen,

is that I would upset someone if I spoke up and shared what I wanted.

If I didn't have enough resources at work, and shared what I wanted.

If I didn't have enough resources at work, I didn't want to upset anyone.

I didn't want anybody to be mad at me.

I didn't want anybody to think I was a bad guy,

so I wouldn't speak up. And when you don't speak up for yourself you get burnt

out. Well at least I did and a lot of people will get burnt out. You might have gotten burnt out in the past when you felt like you

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