My other podcast, Love and Abuse, deals with navigating the difficult relationship, including behaviors that make you feel bad about yourself.

If someone in your life is doing that to you, how is that a loving thing to do? I talk about that and a lot more over

at love and abuse.com.

Welcome to the overwhelmed brain where you'll learn to make decisions that are right for you so that you can create the life you want now.

Hello, this is Paul Kolyani and I'm here to help you learn to deal with difficult people and tackle life's challenges without compromising who you are.

The show consists of my personal opinions and is meant for informational purposes only.

Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being.

I'm going to get right into a message that was sent to me.

This person wrote, hey, I wanted to reach out and tell you how much I appreciate the

overall brain podcast.

I come from an emotionally and physically abusive family and was the oldest of all my siblings.

My father was a very abusive alcoholic for a long time and in many cases I took the abuse to save,

I took the abuse to save my siblings and my mother from receiving it.

When I was a teenager, my wife and I met.

We have been each other's one and only and we recently hit our nine-year wedding anniversary together,

but our marriage was on the rocks bad.

I was so traumatized and I carried that in many unhealthy and emotionally bad behaviors to my wife.

I stumbled upon your podcast and I had a huge breakdown and I let everything out to my wife.

I realized how much of a problem me carrying my past trauma with me was

affecting her emotionally and our marriage so I've taken accountability for my

behavior and I'm changing daily. She even has complimented how much better I'm doing now.

I'm far from unheeled, but I feel so much better and will continue my journey toward healing.

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