Stand Up For Yourself, Within Yourself
The R Spot with Iyanla
Shondaland Audio and iHeartPodcasts
4.9 • 908 Ratings
🗓️ 19 October 2022
⏱️ 33 minutes
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Summary
After 12 years of marriage, one woman is on the verge of divorce because her husband continues to spend time with an ex and many female “friends”, which he refuses to let her meet. Another caller’s boyfriend left him when he didn’t lose the weight gained as a result of the stress of significant loss. Iyanla dives right in, reminding both callers that the most important things for them, in this moment, is to set their boundaries, learn from their mistakes and choose themselves.
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| 0:00.0 | I amla your host for this journey. I was a hopeless love a holic but just could not get my love to work. |
| 0:11.0 | Then after a series of heartbreaks and deep heartache, I finally got clear about |
| 0:18.0 | what love is and what it is not. I want to share some of what I've learned about lover holism. |
| 0:25.4 | Welcome to the R spot, a production of Shandaland audio in partnership with I Heart Radio. In any successful loving, fulfilling relationship, people will be required to make sacrifices in order to come together. |
| 0:55.0 | You see, sometimes you'll want something and the other person may want something else, |
| 1:01.0 | but you can come together to compromise and work out a solution. |
| 1:07.0 | But there are those times when people in relationships can be extremely selfish, only taking, never giving. So I am here today |
| 1:17.9 | to tell you if you are dealing with a partner who has treated you poorly, disregarded your feelings, and taken, |
| 1:27.0 | taken, taken without ever giving back, it is a-okay to vote for you to choose you above your partner. |
| 1:36.0 | Remember that you are a person and you deserve respect and you deserve to be treated fairly. |
| 1:45.0 | And my first caller is a prime example of someone who has, let's say, lost their way |
| 1:52.0 | and needs a reminder that they must stand for themselves within themselves. |
| 2:00.0 | Good afternoon beloved. Welcome to the R-Spot. Now what is the question challenge issue |
| 2:06.2 | dilemma that you would like us to investigate and explore today? |
| 2:12.0 | First, thank you for taking the call. |
| 2:13.5 | Secondly, I am at my wit in in reference to a marriage, a 12-year marriage, ready to divorce because my husband has, he's |
| 2:29.9 | in a recovery program 20-something years and he has a lot of female friends quote unquote. |
| 2:37.4 | Some of these friends fall or text in the middle of the night. |
| 2:42.8 | I'm never able to meet these quote unquote friends. |
| 2:46.9 | Right now the major problem is every Tuesday night |
| 2:50.8 | he's at an ex-girlfriend's house with this group of recovering friends |
| 2:55.1 | supposedly playing cards and he's screened at me at the top of his lungs that |
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