Don’t Assume Your Partner’s Wants & Needs
The R Spot with Iyanla
Shondaland Audio and iHeartPodcasts
4.9 • 908 Ratings
🗓️ 12 October 2022
⏱️ 25 minutes
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Summary
With the intention of bringing a family back together, one woman is trying to bridge the estranged relationship between her boyfriend and his daughter. The problem is: her boyfriend never asked for help. Then, Iyanla’s second caller is frustrated when her husband shuts down after trying to over-communicate her issues with him. Iyanla’s guidance on both issues is straightforward: Communication in a way that works for you and your partner is the only solution.
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| 0:00.0 | I amla. I had a baby daddy relationship. I spent time in a relationship with a married man. |
| 0:09.0 | I had to learn the skills and tools required to make my relationships healthy, fulfilling, and loving. |
| 0:17.0 | Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in partnership with I Heart Radio. Now I know some people like to listen to podcast because of the advice that they receive |
| 0:40.1 | but what I do I do not call it advice. I support I assist I guide I facilitate and I want my |
| 0:50.6 | callers to identify the real issue and sometimes the solution that they already |
| 0:57.6 | know but probably don't like. |
| 1:00.3 | I'm not just here to tell people what to do or how to fix themselves in their relationships. |
| 1:05.7 | Absolutely not. I'm here to remind you. I'm here to interrupt your pattern. I am here to support you and identifying the best |
| 1:18.0 | practices to improve the relationships in your life. See, I'm not that person who gives out unsolicited advice, |
| 1:28.0 | particularly when I think that I've been married and divorced three times. |
| 1:32.0 | However, I'm sure we all know somebody |
| 1:35.6 | who will pop themselves into your business |
| 1:39.2 | just to tell you what they think and what you should do. I know a couple of people like that and you know what I tell |
| 1:45.2 | them? I tell them stay in your car, in your lane, on your road. |
| 1:53.0 | Stay in your own lane. |
| 1:55.0 | Now that can be tricky for people to manage in our lives, |
| 2:01.0 | particularly those people we care about because very often we just want to help or do what we think will help that person. |
| 2:11.0 | It can be especially difficult if you're trying to anticipate your partners wants and needs without ever actually talking to them about it. |
| 2:22.0 | What they want or need is their business and they need to |
| 2:27.0 | invite you into it. Both of my callers today are dealing with very different versions of trying to assume what their partner wants and needs from them |
| 2:37.4 | and it's causing a breakdown in communication. So let's get into those conversations. |
| 2:45.0 | Greetings beloved, thank you for calling the R-Spot. |
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