I amla. We look at all kinds of relationships, love ships, family ships, sibling ships, and sometime the ship sails and at other times it's sinks.

Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio

in partnership with I Heart Radio. Today we're taking a closer look at what I call double dipping. Double dipping.

Where you go into a relationship, you leave the relationship,

and then for some strange reason, you go back.

Now, there's nothing wrong with double dipping.

If it doesn't work the first time and healing and changes

awarenesses unfold and you go back and you do it again,

well, that's a good thing. But if nothing changes and it's just your

attachment or attraction to the person that makes you want to dip your toe in

that river again, well you might have a problem.

We're going to talk about that today.

You know, because if you keep doing the same thing,

you're going to keep getting the same results.

But very often, we double dip because it's familiar. We'll go in and out of a relationship. We'll double dip because it's comfortable. I know you're ugly, you know my ugly, I know your needs, you know my needs, I know how you fight, you know how I fight. So I don't really have to stretch and grow. But here's the piece, and this is the piece I want to focus on today

as I've said many many times people come into our life for a reason or a season or a lifetime

now if you're double dipping in a season or relationship,

meaning that person just came into your life

for a specific season,

maybe to lift you up, maybe to hold you up,

maybe to move you forward, whatever the season.

When that season is over, I don't care what you do.

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