SPECIAL: Lisa Bilyeu on The Mel Robbins Podcast — Why I Finally Chose Myself and How You Can Too

Women of Impact

Impact Theory

Education, Society & Culture, Mental Health, Relationships, Health & Fitness

4.7 • 657 Ratings

🗓️ 20 May 2025

⏱️ 96 minutes

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What up, homies! It’s your girl Lisa Bilyeu and welcome to the Women of Impact podcast! Today, I am BEYOND excited because we’re flipping the script with an absolute LEGEND in the personal growth space – my dear friend Mel Robbins! Yes, THAT Mel Robbins: New York Times bestselling author, motivational powerhouse, and one of the realest, most radically confident humans I know. Now, if you’ve ever felt weighed down by the guilt of wanting a life that doesn’t fit everyone else’s expectations – maybe your family’s got their own ideas, or you’re scared to break tradition, or you just don’t wanna end up living someone else’s story – this episode will absolutely set you free. Mel and I are diving deep into that messy, complicated space where other people’s opinions collide with your dreams... and trust me, we are bringing the receipts, tactical advice, and yes, even the scripts you need to reclaim your path. SHOWNOTES 00:00 Mel opens up about guilt and breaking from expectations04:53 Lisa’s Greek upbringing & family pressures08:25 Finding her passion for film, despite resistance12:45 The game-changing concept of “frame of reference”16:47 How family conditioning shapes our beliefs21:03 Lisa meets Tom – culture clash & rewriting her love story30:41 Using “frame of reference” in relationships35:22 Navigating family when they don’t approve46:16 The decision to not have kids – and how to communicate it55:10 Getting concrete: “average Wednesday” exercise for decisions1:10:25 Taking action, building confidence, and honoring your own path1:18:27 Listener questions: confidence, mistakes, and redefining success1:24:45 Final wisdom: Confidence is a muscle – build it, flex it, live it. CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out. BIOptimizers: Head to⁠ https://bioptimizers.com/impact ⁠and use code IMPACT for 10% off. OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠ For more resources, click here for the podcast episode page. If you liked this episode, tune in to The Mel Robbins Podcast every Monday and Thursday. Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts. To learn more about Mel, go deeper into every episode, find the resources and research she mentions, or submit a topic or question, check out www.melrobbins.com Connect with Mel: • Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory • Watch the episodes on YouTube • Follow Mel on Instagram • The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram • Mel's TikTok • Sign up for Mel’s personal letter ********************************************************************** Thanks to YOU, Women of Impact was named the #1 Badass Female Podcast by MillionPodcasts. Check out the full roundup of fearless shows: ⁠millionpodcasts.com/badass-female-podcasts⁠. ********************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ********************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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1:06.3	And so today I really hope that this conversation with my girl Mel Robbins helps you in your journey to know, A, you're not freaking alone.
1:10.1	And B, yes, you can get back up.
1:12.2	So let's dive into it right now.
1:18.5	Hey, it's your friend Mel and welcome to the Mel Robbins podcast.
1:44.2	I am so glad you're here. I'm just honored to be able to spend some time with you today. Welcome to the Mel Robbins podcast family. I also want to start by acknowledging you for something. You decided to listen to this, and I know why you did, because you're committed to making your own life better. And I just want to say, I think that is so cool. I am so proud of you. So go you. I'm Mel Robbins.
1:45.2	I'm a New York Times best selling author, and I have a simple mission, and it's this.
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