Is He Really a Good Man? 9 GREEN Flags You Can’t Fake | Toure Roberts PT 1

Women of Impact

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Education, Society & Culture, Mental Health, Relationships, Health & Fitness

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🗓️ 21 May 2025

⏱️ 46 minutes

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Lisa Bilyeu welcomes author, relationship counselor, and pastor Toure Roberts for an unfiltered conversation about what it truly means to be a high-value man—and how women can spot genuine green flags instead of falling for toxic cycles. With years of experience counseling couples through the ups and downs of partnership, Toure brings powerful insights into the emotional complexity of men, exploring how childhood, cultural expectations, and a lack of affirmation shape the inner worlds and needs of men in intimate relationships. In part one, Lisa and Toure dismantle popular narratives about neediness, strength, and gender roles, offering both personal stories and practical wisdom. From the long-term pitfalls of viral, drama-driven content to the realities of male vulnerability, they explore what women really need to know about men—and how both partners can participate in building safe, affirming, and deeply connected relationships. If you’ve ever wondered why men seem to have it all together on the outside, but struggle to open up on the inside, this episode delivers answers that might just shift your whole approach to love. SHOWNOTES 00:00 – Why focusing on green flags matters more than toxic red flags 00:31 – The trap of viral drama and the “Jerry Springer Effect” in modern content 01:16 – Oprah’s approach to long-term impact vs. chasing views 02:32 – The real responsibility of content creators: affecting culture meaningfully 07:17 – Toure’s experience counseling couples: What women misunderstand about men’s needs 08:03 – The myth of the simple man: Why men are secretly complicated and needy 09:37 – Internal battles men face with responsibility, identity, and the question: Am I enough? 12:01 – Toure’s personal story: The lifelong weight of being a strong provider 14:09 – The seeds of insecurity sown by critical father figures and lack of affirmation 17:49 – How childhood lessons shape adult relationships and unhealthy dynamics 19:48 – The difference between being a “mama’s boy” and toughening up—and why both energies matter 22:08 – Breaking down the damaging lessons young men absorb about emotions and love 24:16 – How being denied vulnerability leads to emotional suppression in men 25:16 – Early breakups and heartbreak: Toure’s inside view of trust and male friendships 27:26 – “I need you”: What happens when both partners acknowledge their need for one another FOLLOW TOURE ROBERTS: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toureroberts/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ToureRoberts Website: https://www.toureroberts.com CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out. BIOptimizers: Head to⁠ https://bioptimizers.com/impact ⁠and use code IMPACT for 10% off. OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠ ********************************************************************** Thanks to YOU, Women of Impact was named the #1 Badass Female Podcast by MillionPodcasts. Check out the full roundup of fearless shows: ⁠millionpodcasts.com/badass-female-podcasts⁠. ********************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ********************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:28.0	What up, my homie? This is Lisa Bilu, and you're listening to Women of Impad.
0:32.2	How many times have you wanted to communicate with the man in your life and you feel like you're saying all the things and it's just not landing? They're not hearing you or you're not
0:36.5	hearing them. You're not understanding them. They're not understanding you. And so you just kind of brush it up and go,
0:41.2	ah, well, men just aren't emotional, so it is what it is? But what if I told you that that actually
0:45.6	isn't true at all? What if I told you that men are actually more emotional and more needy than they'll ever admit and that you would ever realize. Well, today I'm sitting down with the one, the only Ture Roberts, and he's flipping the whole
0:59.7	narrative on masculinity, emotional intimacy and the invisible walls that actually keep couples
1:05.3	from truly connecting.
1:07.4	This episode is going to challenge your assumptions and what you think and what you know
1:10.2	about men. It's going to deepen your empathy and what you think and what you know about men.
1:10.9	It's going to deepen your empathy, hopefully.
1:13.2	It definitely deepened mine.
1:15.0	And it's going to show you and me exactly how to actually spot a high value man, a man that actually deserves you, a man that deserves for you to put your time and intention into.
1:25.2	That's right guys, I've done so many episodes about the toxic man, but I really want to make sure that we also highlight and identify the amazing
1:32.6	men out there because they are there, guys. It's just about making sure that we are able to
1:37.8	refine our picker so that we can pick the right men. So we're diving today into why men are actually more emotionally needy
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